Is my boyfriends' interest in children abnormal?

Question

1. He spends more time with his friends' child (6 years old) than he does with me. - taking her to school, to his nan's, shopping etc..
2. He has loads of child psychology books.
3. If he has been to visit a friend, he will talk about their child and not mention anything about his friend.
4. He says 'I can tell she fancies me' (a five year old child)
5. He says random comments like ''my daugther keep climbing on top of me'' . With nothing else to add to the statement he has made. He has also said ''my daughter giggles when I wash between her legs'' - (his daughter is a toddler)
6. I asked him if he would like to work with children and he said NO.
7. He has insisted that I should have his baby and that he would be happy to be a house-husband. We've not been together long enough... and why would he want my child when he will not commit himself to me? (see point number 1)
8. Love making feels detatched - feels like he wants to get it over and done with!!

Answer 1

I'd follow my heart and leave this guy alone. Honestly he does sound suspicious and it sounds as though you are very smart to pick up on this. I pray that you are not already too attached to him. It sounds as if you should go to the police station and have his name ran through to see if he has a record...seriously. Again I think that you are very astute and wiser than you know. Please do your best to get away from him and to NOT have his child because I bet if you do he will try to get sole custody or even worse -your child will have him as a father. Also may I recommend that you compare your list to a list on the internet or pamphlets the police may supply. I wish you well.

Answer 2

firstly the fact that u r even asking these questions should tell you that he is abnormal. As a parent of 2 toddlers i feel sic to think about paedophiles and their sic sic minds. leave him, and get that poor child away from him asap. report any thing that seems strange cause you could save this innocent child from a life of torment and abuse. Where is the daughters mother? would she be better with her? are you able to have a reasonable conversation with her and discuss these issues. Oh my god it makes me ill.

Answer 3

From your observations, I would worry about it. I had a boyfriend like that years ago. His (gorgeous) 8 yr old daughter lived with him at the time and I, too often, found them in bed together. I reported him to the child's mother. You sound intelligent and this guy sounds sick.

Answer 4

well i think it is abnormal, but don't blame him, if he raised the child in his own you cant blame him for loving his child very much. he must be proud or had gone under a lot of difficulties with his child and life and since his companion is only his daugther he's too attached to her. understand him and try talking to him if you cant stand him ask yourself; do i really love this guy? no denying of feelings!

Answer 5

Based on what you have posted above I would have to say there is the basis for suspicion. Speak with a child protection adviser as soon as possible and remove yourself from this person it just doesn't sound right.

Answer 6

A man speaks what is stored up in his heart so you already know his preoccupation with children is loud and clear. The specific references you made had a sexual tint to them. Seems to me the guy definately has a fetish.

Answer 7

Yes this is abnormal. Have the child checked out. He's infatuated with a kid...PROBLEM!

Answer 8

I'd leave him. If you have doubts there's no point sticking around to have them confirmed. I'd warn his daughters mum and his friends whose children he visits too.

Answer 9

#5 NOT COOL.flags are flying all over the place and you don't even see the parade. If I were you..............#8 .think about getting another boyfriend

Answer 10

If you have this doubt check into it!!!!!Have you done a background check?If he already has a kid its not the fact he wants to be a father.