Why are people afraid to be alone ?

Question

Shouldn't time of solitude be a time of self exploration an soulsearch ? Why are we afraid of ourselves ?

Answer 1

Because our society does not teach us to be alone. Our environment has created a image in our mind that being lonely is not good. Humans always strive to be in company of others only to fulfill their social obligation and guess who has imposed this feeling of obligation in their minds? definitely, the society itself.

Most of those who say i love being alone only say so to satisfy their ego or they are not able to find any companion and so they tend to satisfy themselves by saying they like to be alone. No man can exist in loneliness for long because our mind is not trained to live alone.

If i lock u in a house or say transfer u to a solitude place where u ac nhave anything u wish except a companion, believe me, u wont be able to live there for long.

Lastly, as u asked, we r not afraid of ourselves, we r afraid of others. what will 'they' think of me if i will stand alone? wil they call me arrogant or introvert or a pervert with whom no one likes to talk? here, i am afraid of 'they', not me!

hope i made a point ;)

Answer 2

Many persons are not comfortable being alone because they are not comfortable with themselves.

Also, there is a huge difference between being alone and being lonely!

Over the years, I have learned that the majority of people who do not wish to be alone, or those who simply cannot tolerate being by themselves, are those who, at some earlier time, have had an experience with a panic or anxiety attack.

Concerning these persons, one of the above-mentioned experiences can be so traumatic and downright frightening that the person feels they are so out of control and cannot cope; perhaps they feel they will die or go insane. Plus, the symptoms of either condition can be horrifying, especially when the person has no understanding of just what is happening to them and why.

The dizziness, difficulty breathing (and usually hyperventiliating), numbness and tingling in the face and other areas of the body, the confusion, feeling hot, cold or both at the same time, also palpitations or 'skipped' heartbeats; sensitivity to light, buzzing oir ringing in the ears. Very scary indeed! The list of possible symptoms goes on and on and vary from person to person.

Therefore, the mere thought of this happening again, while one is alone, can be enough to send them to the brink of still another episode.

Yes, it sounds dramatic. However, unless you have experienced panic and/or severe anxiety, you do not realize exactly how immobilizing it can be.

Because of the fear, one will avoid, at all costs, being alone.

Other explainations and/or reasons can vary drastically. Maybe the person is bored; maybe there are many unresolved life problems in the household; perhaps the person lacks the coping skills to continue being motivated while alone.

Perhaps they find they are not good company for themselves.

It is important to know whether the time spent alone is due to one's Choice, or it it Forced upon them. With the latter being the situation which can cause the most problems.

At any rate, besides not being creatures who, by habit, prefer to be alone for long periods of time, if one is having a problem of being alone which is severe enough to interfere with their daily lives and functioning, they should seek counselling or, at the very least, educate themselves as to what they may be able to do that will lessen the discomfort of being alone.

If no improvement comes from education, one really should seek out professional help. There are medications that can keep the anxiety under control.

Examine yourself, casually, don't browbeat yourself to a pulp (!) and see if you can find whatever the problem may be for your dislike of being alone. Do this when you are NOT alone!!

Especially notice your reactions when you initially learn that you will be spending a bit of unwanted alone time. This could be key in learning the origin of your fear. Whether it is a fear of someone coming in and hurting you; losing control while alone; going insane while alone with no one to help you; or injuring yourself or others. This would be a very important first step. Share your findings with a trusted friend or couselor. Talk about them and ask for feedback, as you have done here.

I have the feeling that is it much more than a simple dislike of being alone. Also, I do not think a new hobby or structured time (although these are healthy ideas to pursue once the true cause is found) is your solution.

I hope this helps you. It is written with sincerety and the deepest of concern.

Best,
Petra

Answer 3

Humans are social animals, we function better when we interact with others. Our health and well being benefit from social intercourse.

However the need for solitude and meditation is a normal part of what we are, like everything when in balance its is beneficial.

Answer 4

People are taught to be social but it can be your undoing if you don't set time limits; quiet time for just you to think clearly, contemplate and recharge. The problem with society comes about when people don't take time for themselves and lash out at other people. Being social does not mean be neglectful or stupid in your choices of friends, lovers or acquaintances. To the single people out there... you're are okay, just take time out to be social.

Answer 5

That happens to the most of people probably cause when they are alone they have to deal with themselves (excuse my english I,m spanish) and there are a lot of things inside them that they just can,t accept ,and sometimes they realise how empty they feel inside
When you are with people around you that distract you from all that
Un saludo

Answer 6

Some people just feel they need company to validate them. Personally,I love my time on my own-it doesn't happen often,as I am a mum and usually when she is at her dad's for the weekend,I am with my boyfriend. But once in a while,I have a weekend to myself and revel in the peace!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I like some time to myself--but if I go to sleep and wake up in the middle of the night--I fear things like mice or bugs getting into the house--or that someone wants to harm me and might break in.

Answer 9

it gets pretty lonely if u r alone for too long. some people are afraid of what they might find out about themselves during the soul search.

Answer 10

It is healthy to be alone at times.

Having no choice but to be alone is scary. Humans are made to share their lives with another person.