Should we listen to our parents or go with our interest to chose our career?

Question

after passing 12 we find our parents presurisin to us chose the field they want..which is quiet diff from his or her field of interest.
and they r forced to go with their parents choice...should they be forced for it or they shld be given that much freedom to chose their carrer..

Answer 1

Absolutely not..the parents are wrong..I do suggest listening carefully to their imput and reasons for their opinions. After all, they love you and want the best for you and do have the benefits of experience and you would be wise to listen to them; however, it is in the long run your life, we often have different temperaments than our parents and thus see things differently. I will never forget my son telling me when he was in college about a best friend of his' parents literally forcing the kid to go into business..do it or we take away all money for college and you can support yourself. He really wanted to be a pyschologist and you can't get much further apart than that, He was afraid to pay his own way and stand up to them and totally and absolutely miserable in that field.

I also remember my sister's stepdaughter talking to me and telling me how upset she was..she wanted to go to this wonderful liberal arts college--just a great place and her very controlling dad refused to pay unless she went to his choice which did not have as good a program or environment. They make well over $100,000 a year so money was not a factor. I rememebr she was extremely hurt and upset and unhappy too.

My oldest son wanted to be an artist since he was 2 and to go to into commercial illustration in 4th grade. He was highly gifted intellectually and artistically. Although I talked with him about (my fear) of extreme competition and possible frequent rejections, he did not share my fears for unlike me who lacked confidence, he was totally confident in his abilities. I told him often I want you to be happy with what you do and to love it..so many people hate their job and are doing what they don't want to do and ruins their health due to unhappiness and stress and is not a good place to be etc.

I felt it was extremely important to love what you do cause you will spend a long time doing it. He was selected one out of a thousand students for one honor and one of 20 students in about 65 high schools togo to a special program in high school. That program gave him advanced learning and a portfolio and based on that he won a full $16,000 scholarship the 2nd highest one awarded among 500 students. Unfortunately, due to an accident where he was heroic in coming to someone's aid, his hand was severely broken and he was unable to draw and almost killed himself but now is doing a job several years. Unfortuinately and sadly, he does not like his job but sometimes that is how life throws you a curve. You should carefully consider your parent's point but in the long run they should yield to your interests and talents.

Answer 2

You have to balance your interests with advice from all the best sources.

In reality, experience will ultimately be your best teacher. Most kids want to be rock stars, actors, models, and professional athletes. Then reality rocks your world and you realize that only 1 out of every 50,000 actually make it in those industries and you have to settle for a real job.

Your parents actually offer good advice based on their own experience. You might want to at least listen and allow their advice to temper your decision, since, after all it IS your decision in the end.

Answer 3

Colossians 3:23-24 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. Truth be told mam, you don't need much advice. It was you yourself that recognized that your husband is being too hard on your son. It was you yourself that recognized that your son is spending his time wisely. Be plain, be simple, tell your husband just what you've shared with us mam. As for your son, be proud that your son is willing to study! Encourage him and pray for him. No trial that fails to kill you will make you minutely stronger, or minutely wiser.

Answer 4

Yes, u must also listen to your parents, but at the end must make your own decision after evaluating everyone's advice. Only if you are damn sure and confident of yourself, then you must go ahead with your plans. But make sure that you are ready to face all the concequences. You should also prepare yourself for all the hardships involved in your decision. You have to be responsible for your own actions.

Answer 5

It is a very complicated question. And it mostly depends on what kind of family it is. For instance, I grew in a family where my point of you was as much important as my parents'. So, when there came time to choose the future way, I shared my ideas with my parents, and listened to them. So we discussed it and I managed to make them understand that my life is my life, and if I make some my own "steps" it means that I long to learn, and ,of course, to make some mistakes, it's so natural. They have to understand that it's exactly the right time for you to make steps yourself, because our parents won't live forever and they won't be able to help us, to show us everytime the right way they think. The time to grow!!!

Answer 6

Nothing to worry. If u can able to choose your career you can do with your parents' guidance and convince them by telling the good aspects of your choice to accept your decision or if you can't decide by your own then listen to your parents.

Answer 7

you should go with what you want to do ! if your not into what you go in to then you will never be happy it is the worst thing to choose the wrong career path it will make you misserable when your older. you must go with what you want then you will be interested in it and want to go further up in that career which will make you happyer in the long run goodluck and choose the right career for you and be happy i know too many people who chose the path there parents chose and there so unhappy goodluck :)

Answer 8

Hmm, you still gotta listen to your parents at that age, but in the end it's gonna be your choice. Maybe you can accommodate both. Or at least let them know that you feel that you're mature enough to choose your own career path.

Answer 9

It is not that "the way they want" - alternatively it is the way to guide us what is best suited to us in the world of high competition. when we can"t get what we desire we must sportively accept and develop interest in what we have got. that is the healthy way not only for the individual but also to the society as a whole .

Answer 10

If you have a viable plan, which is sensible and practical, go with your own choice. There is nothing worse than living with a career that you resent.