She says that after this whole CBB thing that mixed relationships will never work unless one is willing to acccept the other's beliefs completely. Personally, I think if you love each other you can overcome that. Do you agree?
2007-01-16 20:39:22 · 9 answers · asked by Charlene 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also a mixed race relationship - could that work?
2007-01-16 20:41:11 · update #1
Problems will always come up so it depends more on how serious about your religion you are, and how much you are willing to compromise..
2007-01-16 21:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by pipi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course it can work if both parties are willing to try hard enough, you will have to compromise alot with the beliefs and traditions but being in a relationship means u accept ppl for who they are. And wiv a mixed race relationship yes again as it will only be the skin colour thats different if they are frm the same country. Anything is possible if you are willing to work at it and compromise xx
2007-01-17 06:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel it depends on how seriously they each take their religion - how often they practice, the morals and lifestyles it requires them to uphold - and whether they decide to have children together.
If you are both lapsed in your following - for example visiting church only for weddings, funerals and Christmas as a Christian, then I don't think it would be necessary for you to take on the other person's religion... If it's a big part of your life - weekly church-going etc. then it might be more of an issue. Obviously if you decide to marry, it would be quite a decision to make - how to make the wedding appropriate for both families, following both religious views/practices and allowing everyone to be comfortable with the ceremony.
Children are the other issue - a decision would need to be made regarding how they would be brought up: how to teach them about the world, which religion they would practice, where they would go to worship... how they might feel in the future about having families from two different 'worlds' as such.
I think it's possible, but it could take a lot of work and marriages aren't easy things to hold together these days anyway!
2007-01-17 04:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you colleague but would also add that it does not mean one has to be like the other its all about understanding. The Evil Triplets (Jade, Jo and Danielle) are ignorant. They are not only highlighting the fact that in their community lack of a standard education and stupidity is cool but they are also displaying the fact that life education is not something that is actively encouraged.
They are grossly intimidated by the fact that Shilpa comes from a cultured background, is attractive and does not appear short of a bob or two. She maybe "Indian" (with respect) but not as they know or will ever know it. Shilpa has been slagged for being up herself, so what, if she is Indian royalty that's just who she is. I would like to see one of Charles' boys or Andrew's girls appear on such a programme and handle it with less than such an air as hers. She has every right. In her community, her social circle would not be that of the like of the Evil Triplets. If we slung Angelina Joilie or some Hollywood A-lister in there would we be saying they were up themselves, I don't think so.
A person of colour flirting with the ignorant scrapings that is the Evil Triplets would never work. You just end up with pale, dusty-looking, dry, nappy headed children suffering from malnutrition either because all the goodness is cooked out of the food or mother just can't cook!!
2007-01-17 06:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by The Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other person at your work. I've seen many mixed race marriages in the UK and it is always the non-british prtner that takes on the beliefs and culture of the partner, even down to religion. I havent seen any who have managed to hold on to 2 different beliefs within marriage xxxxxxxxx
2007-01-17 04:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by starlet108 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are human beings and yes we should be able to overcome each others differences with love. However, we are still having wars over these different beliefs. But, your right we should be accepting. It's a shame that the entire world cannot be more civilized.
2007-01-17 04:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, in my experience it doesn't work. Someone is going to have to compromise esp if it gets serious. It would be like two Christians or two Muslims going to separate churches. Religion is a very big family thing so who will be excluded and who won't?
2007-01-17 08:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dilly007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally feel that it will work only for the first couple of months, than later on it will become a problem. All depends on how serious you are about your religion isn't it?
2007-01-17 04:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by Immortal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is apparantly right as we lack "tolerance" however if a resonable level /degree of tolerance is present in both stakeholders things can work out
2007-01-17 04:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋