How do I get over a man I have a child with?

Question

Well, I left him and I thought it was the right thing because I can't see myself with him for the rest of my life. There are alot of dislikes about him that I just can't move past. However, I find myself jealous when he talks to other girls. I know leaving him was the right thing to do but I can't help feeling the way that I do. And whats worse is that we have a son together. So, I am obligated to see him which doesn't help at all. I am so confused about what I think is right and what I am feeling. Someone please help me find clarity!!

Answer 1

this ma sound flipant, but it's not meant to be sarcastic----find a new man who will love you and your child as a real man would.

Answer 2

It might seem critical now, but in time all of this will fade. Moving on and up is hard, even though you have a child by him, but in the long run you and your son will make it. Let the other women have him, if you must be jealous, keep it in your head, actions aren't warranted. You will come to see the many possibilities that are open to you and your son, minus the unnecessary baggage. Time will go on, your lives will change in many ways, you will have the advantage of having your son at your side, you will help and watch him grow, something in later years his father will realize he missed. As a woman, there is nothing you can't do, as a mother you get to see the world not only through your eyes but the eyes of your child as well, and with your child being a male, if his father can't bring to the table any amenable traits, then he will be best left in your past. Moving on is hard by lying dormant is even harder. God Bless.

Answer 3

I think that you should recognize the fact that your feelings are simply okay and normal. Then it will be helpful to remember that time heals all wounds. What you are experiencing is like a deep wound -you believe the doctors when they tell you that if you take your pain pills that the wound will heal, right? Well you know that if you accept your feelings as understandable but not what is eternal nor needs to be acted on and you know that the relationship is 'toxic' for both you and your son, then your brain will take over your heart and lead you on out of the bondage of thinking that you care for him in that way. We have to take every thought and analyze it with WISDOM. Feelings change but the truth never does. If he is not good for you then remember that regardless of your feelings yours and your son's need will not change, don't bring into your life what you don't need. Seek after what is good and what is beneficial. Both of you are worth it, right? I think so, girly. Stay strong!

Answer 4

He will always be in your life, not matter what! Because you've had a child with him, so i think that you should think about what you want or whether you think you can make the relationship work, and then go and talk to him, ask him if he still has feelings for you, ask him if he would consider getting back together with you and if he's prepared to change a few things to make it work, but you need to understand that you may need to change a few things as well.
It would be good for your child if you got together, but you mustn't use that as an excuse...think about you, think about what you want, but think long and hard.

Answer 5

Look I am a man myself, and I get very jealous cause my girlfriend is talking to a guy that I just don't even trust.

Just start talking to other guys.

But you need to let him see his son, cause he has the right to see his son, unless the court judge says something different. You cannot keep him from seeing his son.

Answer 6

YOU WILL NEVER GET OVER HIM HE WILL ALWAYS BE IN UR HEART OR THOUGHTS BECAUSE U TWO MADE A BUNDLE OF JOY TOGETHER, BUT AS TIME GOES BY IT WILL GET EASIER AS TIME PASSES, BUT R U SURE U MADE THE RIGHT CHOICE, IF U FEEL LIKE U CAN'T LIVE WITH OUT HIM I WOULD RETHINK MY DECISION