If you've known a person for just over two weeks and you seem to hit it of cos you have some things in common and that person tells you nice things and you feel you could trust him/her, and you told that person a lot of your personal stuff including your personal struggles in life which you don't want anyone else to know about, and that person says he/she will always he here for you no matter what. And now that person hasn't written in over 4 days, and you start feeling anxious and worried that you have been played and that you should have trusted your instinct cos you have been burnt in the past by others. What should you do now if that person never replies? You feel like you have really trusted this person and now you feel so insecure, unloved, tricked and useless.
2007-01-16 20:22:23 · 7 answers · asked by xander 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know how you feel, I had a friend on the internet for many months and she and I would talk everyday on instant messenger along with emails and talking on the phone. We became very close and told each other everything and I too confided in her. I am going through a very rough time in my life right now and would talk to her about it and she just started pushing me away and ignoring me. she finally sent me an email that said she didn't really care anymore and just some really rude things. This is after she said she would always be there for me no matter what. I was there for her and listened to her problems and called her when she would need someone to talk to and then it's like when I just needed her to listen to me, it was too much for her. So I understand how this hurts you and you feel tricked and insecure. I am taking it day by day and telling myself if this is how this person really is then maybe it is better that I don't be friends with her. It is hard, very hard as you trust these people who claim to be your friend. But if they don't reply to you then you don't really need them anyway because they will probably just end up causing you more hurt. Just tell yourself you were a good friend to this person and if they don't see it then they don't deserve your friendship and trust.
2007-01-16 20:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by SHOP GIRL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, my PC plays up all the time and sometimes it takes days to sort it out! It could be that is the reason he/she has not got back to you.
Also it could even be your server, check that your emails are actually being sent.
Sometimes people get suddenly poorly, and the last thing they can do is answer emails....
Or it could be the person was not as nice as they made out and something in your last correspondence put them of.
Don't let it worry you too much. What can they do with what you've told them? Do they have your real name and address? If you feel they may do some crime with the information that they have, then you need to involve the police or take the necessary action to change it.
2007-01-17 04:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by Honey W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!!!
Two weeks is not enough time to call someone your friend. sounds like you are searching to fill a void in your life, what is going on ?
How old are you? So many questions with no answers.
First of all, be cautious with online so called friendship.
Stop and meditate, what is it that you lack that you are searching for onlilne ? Why so gullable ? You should not trust anyone so fast, regardless of what they say.
You really do not know this person, they can say what everthey want..
Hapiness comes from within, and you must love yourself to be able to love others.
Sounds to me like you are in need for someone to listen to you, you feel alone and unloved.
You should go to the people you live with and have a heartfelt conversation with them. Seek help for yourself as well.stop and realize how important you are, how unique you are. We are all unique and important.
This person you met online could have good intentions for all I know, but be careful. Don't give out to much personnal information, you do not know this persons agenda, and what motives they might have.
Not everyone is our friend, I learned the hard way.
You are in control of how you allow others to make you feel, you said you felt insecure, unloved, tricked and useless. Powerful feelings, but NO WAY !!!!!
seek help ASAP, I would cut off communications with this person you met online for now.
You do not know if something happened to this person, but regardless you should be careful.
Love light and peace
2007-01-17 04:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two weeks isn't enough time to build a true friendship. You know nothing, "NOTHING" about this person, only what they have told you on-line. Be more careful in picking friends, haven't you been privy to the news with regard to these type of things. You also need to build your self-esteem, you seem to be somewhat clingy. Also stop " STOP" being so trusting, maybe you were lucky it was just on line, you might have been hurt more seriously than just your feelings. God Bless.
2007-01-17 04:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know this person only online, although you have told them alot about yourself, then don't blame yourself for anything. If you wait they may get back to you, they might have been held up. If they do not get back to you, try to not worry, I'm sure if they came across as trustworthy, they wont post your personal life around the world.
2007-01-17 04:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by mrimtoocoolforyou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all,plz chill.i know its easier saying than doing it but trust me thinking is just like a rocking chair n it wont get u anywhere.
ive been in teh same situation.my online frd n me has been frds for 3 years,we used to share almost anything under the sun.i trusted him n vice versa...etc..but my story is a bit diff...now that he has a gf...recently had a gf....he isnt keeping in touch wiht me now...hes slowly drifting away...whihc is hurting me.. :( but i cant do anything coz one thing is that his gf is so possessive n insecure that she doesnt want him to talk to anymroe femaele frds of his...but the sad part is that hes so dumb so listen to her... it just shows hes imature...n he can manipulated easily by that .........Ahem.........
so good news ithat .... for u just hope ur frd will reply... im sure he or she will.... it might mean that that person is busy or somethig ,... gv time...
2007-01-17 04:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg i really don't know what to say...but u shouldn't have trusted this prson quickly...u didn't know him/her very well to tell him about your personal life....but if he/she is really a good person he will reply to u....and if he/she doesn't(c'est la vie)u've learned a good lesson..good luck
2007-01-17 04:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by no care for all 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋