I have been with my bf for 6 years and 2 months. Im divorced, he has never been married. For the past couple of years I have wanted to get married, he said he wasnt ready. Back in july he came around and we desided to get married, with a long engagement. We set the date for sept 2008. He has not offically purposed because we simply don't have the money for an engagement ring right now. He bought me a ring (not the engagement kind) for christmas, he asked me to wear it on my left hand, sort of like a promise ring and when he get me an engagment ring I can wear the other ring on my right hand. Anyway, I was all for it when he wasnt ready. And now that Im wearing this "promise" ring. Im scared to death, Imnot sure I want to do this, but I dont know why. He is so good to me, we never fight, we laugh together. He is a much better person than my first husband. So why am I so scared to marry him?
2007-01-16 20:16:46 · 13 answers · asked by hlizzy21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are afraid because you think of your past and it will always scare you. You have to let it go, don't hold it back. See we have to gamble with lot of things in our life, we don't know whether things are good for us or not. We have to try , we have to take another chance.
I think this guy is good, even though he didn't have money he got you a ring, that is it self a commitment that he will always keep you happy.
Flush your past and start a new life, you have been living together for 6 years now, that itself tells a lot.
All the best.
2007-01-16 20:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by Nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably because you made a mistake the first time around. All I can tell you is, if you can live with his goods and bads and still be happy at the end of the day you are with the right person. You need to have a balance between the two of you to be happy together. Best wishes.
2007-01-16 20:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 08:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage. The thought alone is frightening to a lot of people. The reality. It is binding. If you are having doubts.....which I think is completely natural....then really consider everything. How you feel about him. How it will affect your life. Sometimes, couples who wait too long have a hard time once they do get married. I am not trying to discourage you. But marriage is a huge huge step. You do need to think about it very seriously. If you just truly love him....and he is good to you, and loves you, then why not??
2007-01-16 21:03:05 · answer #4 · answered by ♥2323vsb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. if he keeps dragging then he is not for you. believe me i just went thru (am still feeling the hurt). tis guy's not worth it. being good, not fighting and laughing together is not everything. i've done that too with my guy and at the end he married someone else. talk to him. tell him wats on yr mind and ask him to make a decision. then its up to you too move your bags or kick him out.
2007-01-16 20:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by Akki's Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you take a 2nd job at night, to save money to buy a ring for him?
2007-01-16 21:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are scared because of your past experience and if you let it continue it will destroy your happiness.You will never have a happy marriage.Put it behind and move on.
2007-01-16 20:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you aren't feeling secure in the relationship because he doesn't show any signs of wanting to commit on his own.
2007-01-16 20:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and examine the matter objectively and see if ur anxiety is justified.
2007-01-16 21:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU R SCARED BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN THERE BEFORE BUT THE QUESTION IS CAN U LIVE WITHOUT HIM IF NOT THEN HE IS THE ONE
2007-01-16 20:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by proud mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋