Is he cheating (please answer)?

Question

Yet again, I ask this question! Now I have found colonge in the bathroom and I have known this man for 6 years. He has NEVER worn colonge. He all of a sudden changed from briefs to boxers (again, always said he HATED boxers) and we have not made love in over a year (I was pregnant most of the year, but now our baby is 5 months and we still have not had sex). Should I hire a private investigator? I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm being betrayed. Or am I just being paranoid? What would you do?

See, he is very tricky though. We don't own cell phones and he doesn't have his own email. I don't know how to investigate this and I work at night, so I can't follow him around. I just know that once in a while there will be money withdrawn from our account for unknown reasons (about $40.00). I'm so confused and SAD!

I have confronted him and he becomes very upset with me. He said he doesn't want to have sex because he is afraid of having another baby. (We did plan our first, so it is not like we had a suprise the first time and he is afraid of another).

Answer 1

Im sorry to say this but in my own opinion I beleive that he is cheating, I only say this because someone that I know is having an affair with a married man, thay love each other very much but my friend wont ask this man to leave his family, he will I guess when he's ready. My friend doesn;t think about him being married she is to herself and lives okay the that it is my friends motto is "THIS IS AS GOOD AS IT GETS" she's talking about herself of course she has more confidence in herself that what ever becomes of this affair that she having she's going to be okay with it. You on the other hand get some confidence in yourself and start telling yourself YOUR AS GOOD AS IT GETS!

Answer 2

He is probably but we can't be sure until you see it. I suggest you pay attention to what time he leaves and comes home. Is he ignoring you when you are talking? Men when they are cheating seems to be lost all the time and could act paranoid also. If he is off work, see if he hides in the bathroom or room and use his cellphone. Check his phone also. If he gets mad, then this is one sign. Another is ask him to pick up something at the grocery store after work (call the same day) and see if he is able to do it without excuses. If we works in an office-like environment, see if a sudden change of schedule occur like staying late because there's overtime.

When you approach him with your suspicion, try one question at a time and if you get a different reaction then it might be because it's true. There's a lot of sign you can tell why men are cheating and how to find out. Best approach is to stay calm and not to push them to get answers. Talk to him when he's in his best mood.

Answer 3

I can't sit here and say yes or no as for the cheating part.
However you being the wife need to sit him down and have a serious talk with him and ask him directly the
questions that you have asked us: by his re-actions or
replys it should give you a hint of what he is all about:and
if you still get un-satisfactory answers then you need to
take other measures such as seperation for one and
during that time it will give you and him the space needed
sometimes to figure things out. Seperation is not the cure
and there are other ways so communicate with him first
and if he is honest with you he should tell you what the
problem is. Good luck.

Answer 4

It doesn't make sense that he's suddenly more concerned with his appearance and yet you haven't had sex in forever. Trust me, he's trying to look good for someone. Get him followed.
If you do have sex with him, be careful, and have him wear a condom( shouldn't be a problem sense he's so scared of having another baby). The last thing you need is to catch something from him if he's messing around.
Good luck.

Answer 5

Well, sometimes when a man is cheating, he usually feels so guilty that he gives the wife a lot of attention and they have a lot of sex. Maybe he is trying to seduce you! Have you initiated sex since you had the baby? Maybe he is feeling left out and ignored so he is trying to get your attention. Try giving him some (probably) much needed attention and see how he responds.
Let me know if my advice works.
Please don't use the excuse that you are too tired taking care of the baby. That is so unfair to him... He deserves you to still be his wife/lover. You are not just a mommy. You can do it. Us women have the ability to find strength from deep within and be everything we need to be:wife, mother, employee=in that order!

Answer 6

I see this over and over again in my network why I asked my question (signs of cheating) and sweetie,hate to be the messenger but if you havent had sex in over a year, he's telling you something and do you think he wants that responsibility (cmon he's a guy) of hurting you especially since you just had his baby. I'd give him an ultimatum: he tells you GIVING YOU SEX whats going on with HIM or tell him tic 4 tac ;) and make him guess that would be...you just be creative, I'm sure you'll think of something! lol

Answer 7

If you think he is than he probably is. Have you asked him? Of course most men would deny it I'm sure! Try getting him to go to counseling with you. At the very least it sounds like the relationship could benefit with a 3rd party involved to help talk about the lack of closeness and emotional abandonment.

Answer 8

Yeah hes cheating. WHen men start taking care of themselfs like that..it def. means something Try to have sex with him and see what happens. Dont hire someone...do it yourself. Follw him around, check him emails, check his pockets. You have the right to find out becuase this is your life also and you have a baby. Are you married? Start saying you wanna get married. I am very sorry this is happening to you. ALso you could just ask him out right. Tell him you know something is going on and you WILL find out

Answer 9

Whether he is or isn't cheating isn't your problem. Firstly, it's obvious you don't trust him. Not good!. Secondly, you have no love life. Worse. Third, this is affecting you immensely by reading between the lines of what you've written. Terrible. The truth is, your marriage is stuffed and the sooner you move on, the better you'll be. I don't think professional counselling will solve anything. You can't resurrect the dead!

Answer 10

probably. But why no sex in over a year.? Does he initiate it and you reject him or vice versa or neither of you bring it up? How bizarre. I couldnt stand to live with my man and not have sex. I had sex throughout both my pregnancies. Perhaps if you wouldnt let him have sex or don't make an effort yourself I couldnt blame him for cheating. Is it even cheating. I'd go and get some if it was me. Sex is important.