For example you've got a boyfriend. And you two love each other, share everything, do everything together, get on really great and you've been together for a long time. but when it comes to marriage he steps back and says he's against it. he doesnt need a signature to prove his love.
2007-01-16 19:51:44 · 20 answers · asked by :( 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't make any man marry you. He has to feel its the right thing to do for the both of you. at least thats how i feel. i dont think he loves you any less if youre not married at the time. just spend everytime you can with him and just be happy together. soon enough that day will come .good luck
2007-01-16 19:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by Aiea Joe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him marry you. He obviously cares about you if you do everything together there may be a reason why he doesn't want to get married. If parents divorce etc it makes it really hard for their kids to actually want to get married or maybe he thinks that if you get married things will change, at each different stage of life things change, when people move in together it changes, a baby comes along it changes and when you get married some things change too. Maybe you need to find a common ground with one another, have a commitment ceremony instead, that way you have the formal commitment witnessed by family and friends yet he doesn't have to sign a piece of paper
2007-01-16 19:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with the same woman for over 10 ten years and we are not married. My father and mother have both be divorced 3 times and the rest of my family has also been in and out of many relationships so i do not want to get married. All marriage is a piece of paper anyways, my girlfriend and i are very happy with each other and we have no plans to get married any time soon. I don't have a fear of commitment, i just don't see why i have to have a piece of paper to express my love to her, i have been with her for 10 years and I'm not going anywhere anytime soon, so just be happy with what you have.
2007-01-16 20:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by sincity usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the goddam Federal Laws. We're a nation of puritans. I've been with my partner for 10 years and can't get married, but Britney Spears can get married 3 or 4 times in 6 months. Yeah, I'm a threat to the institution of marriage. BOLLOCKS.
2007-01-16 19:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant make a guy marry you any way. But more importantly why would you want to? Do you really think it would last if he was forced to do it? What you need to do is assess your relationship, and your goals and such and see if they mesh. If you are set on marriage and kids ect , and he is opposed to this , he simply may not be the right guy for you, because obviously your not on the same page. Its great that you love each other but if you both want totally different futures, it may be time to move on and find a man that wants what you want. This way the guy can marry you because he wants to, not cuz someone made him.
2007-01-16 19:53:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's really tough. Maybe tell him your point of view instead.
So, does he want kids? If so, it'll be easier to talk terms with him. Coz kids might get affected later on in years knowing their parents didnt get married and having friends tease them bout this.
But what you really need is not a signature but a commitment a small ceremony ...just a next level of your relationship to make things more interesting in your relationship.
I hope things work out well for you and that he sees things in your perspective.
2007-01-16 19:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by Aranel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read "The Rules." The best thing is to put a little distance between you two, be less available, have things to do and people to hang out with. If he feels like he's losing you, he's more likely to propose. Sad to play those games, but true.
2007-01-16 20:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your BF is not ready to commit then respect his wishes. You can't force anybody to to anything and marriage is a huge commitment. I think its best for you to give him some time. Soon you will see its the best for both of you to do this.
2007-01-16 20:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't make people do what you want. If he doesn't want to get married, respect his decision. If marriage is important to you, find someone else. You should not settle for less!
2007-01-16 19:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he doesn't want to get married. He might have had a problem in past life that he doesn't want to talk about or repeat.
Tell him that whatever happened will not happen with you and him...Pretty much you are the one who will have to convince him...
2007-01-16 19:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by Mafia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋