Is there such a thing as love, or is it just another kind of fairytale painted to mislead us all? What is the difference between caring and loving? Can one really be totally 'in love' with someone?
2007-01-16 19:34:28 · 17 answers · asked by jmk 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
This may help I have provided you a complete answer to what love is. I hope that this helps you.
“When you look at love, you're looking into the face of appreciation.”
Throughout the history of mankind, we as a world culture have made love out to be mysterious, complex, difficult, and undefinable. It’s the subject of endless poems and literary works. There is an enormous amount of material available out there about love, a lot of it contradictory.
We’ve been given the impression that to define love is near to impossible. Maybe there’s a fear that if we define it, it would somehow be less powerful...less impactful...less exhilarating. Maybe we like the mystery of it. But is it really that complicated? Perhaps the complications surrounding love come from all “stuff” we add on to this powerful emotion. Lets drop all the baggage surrounding relationships and define what it is we are experiencing in the moment of love.
Basic Components of Love
What do you feel when you love someone? If distilled down to it’s core components, what would those be? Yes, love is an emotion, a feeling, a wanting, and a “being”. We know it feels good, but what specific feelings, wantings, and beings are present when we feel love? Here are the common denominators of love...
Love is Accepting.
Acceptance is labeling someone as "okay" and having no particular desire to change them. Who they are is perfectly fine with you. You pose no condition on whether you will love them or not. This is call unconditional love. When your love IS conditional, the moment they step outside your set of conditions, love evaporates.
Love is Appreciating.
Appreciation is one step beyond acceptance. Its when your focus is on what you like about another. We look at them and feel this sweeping appreciation for who they are, their joy, their insights, their humor, their companionship, etc. When someone says they are "in love" with another, they mean their appreciation is so enormous for this person that it consumes their every thought.
Love is Wanting Another to Feel Good.
We want those we love to be happy, safe, healthy, and fulfilled. We want them to feel good in all ways, physically, mentally and emotionally.
How Do We Express Love?
We don’t always express our love. Love is a feeling and the expression of that feeling is separate. It’s an action. There’s a practical reason we don’t always express our love for another. It’s an issue of TIME. We only have 24 hours in a day (if you make it up that way). If the expression of love was a core ingredient to love, we would have to be stingy with who we loved, because there simply wouldn’t be enough time to demonstrate our love for everyone! If you see the distinction between the feeling and the expression, you can then love endless numbers of people.
Attention
Love expressed is when you give your attention, your time, your focus to someone. Webster defines attention as “the giving of one’s mind to something."
There are many ways in which we give our attention to another. We use our five senses. Our ears to listen. Being completely present with the one who is speaking. Our eyes, watching another, undivided attention. Tasting/smelling? (I’ll let you figure that one out). Touching, giving a hug, holding a hand, a caress, or sexual expression. How you express your love depends on the type of relationship.
2007-01-16 19:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by tnbadbunny 5 · 35⤊ 5⤋
two peoples soul of understanding
2014-05-19 20:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One can be totally in love with someone. :|
Like, you're totally obsessed with someone, you always think of them and even ended up dreaming them. You even wonder the if time you spend with them is a dream or real. And when that person brings out the best in you. You wish for their happiness and safety always. Just being with that person makes you extremely happy, or completes your day. And when that person is not around for a day you will feel completely sad.
And when your parting with them or never going to see them again it's a torture. It's like life has sucked out in you. :|
2014-05-24 16:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by Teru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is real.
most people have the misconception that love is supposed to be like the stuff in fairytales. however, it's not. love isn't just about the relationship between 2 people with all the mushy stuff. there are different kinds. examples are love for family, friends, life, etc. the best proof that love exists is the fact that people possess various kinds of relationships. love is the root of many things like unity, respect, trust, etc. without it, it's either we live in a world of indifference or not live at all.
loving and caring are closely related. caring is like giving heartfelt concern. loving is caring and some other extras. example, when you love, you learn to sacrifice and accept some things for what they really are.
to be totally in love with someone may perhaps seem possible. the thing about being in love is not the illusion of living happily ever after. to be truly in love, you realize that you have to take the good with the bad. that calls for a lot of compromise and even times where you just got to swallow your pride.
2007-01-17 00:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by changing_sky 2 · 22⤊ 2⤋
Yes,there is such thing as love-the trouble is finding it.
My experiences have taught me there are many different types of love.I have been 'in love',I was engaged to this man whom I thought would be the father of my children.It felt great to be with him,but then reality showed a different point of him that I had to
acknowledge,& sadly,I had to leave him.I believed we were meant to be together,our souls just joined in the right moments.
Then,I became disillusioned about love-I thought it was just in my mind.But,I know for sure that our souls entwined.When certain people find this type of love,they do everything they can to manifest it in reality;other people give up-& that was the case with my ex-fiance.I had a hard time letting go of 'being in love',but I had to for my sake.I belive my time will come again,& I will fall in love,but I will be not be blind to the reality of the connection.It has to come from all angles,& that will be true love.I've also had more profound experiences,which I cannot explain.I have been friends with this man for four years,&in the past month we became more than friends.I love this man very much,but we just can't be together in that way-we've tried,but we're not in love.We have a deep kind of love between us,but it's not meant to manifest physically.It's spiritual & emotional,deeper even than what my ex-fiance & I had.But,I believe that true love needs all thase elements: being in love;& also connecting on EVERY level-challenging eachother is the key.I hope this helps you in some way,but we're all still learning about love-no ones really figured it out.It's a feeling...similar to beauty;poetry;art;nature.It enriches you on a very deep & personal level.That's when you know.
2007-01-16 20:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by Searching Soul 1 · 21⤊ 5⤋
Don't lose hope because there is such a thing. The major difference between loving and caring is the connection. You can care for anyone or anything, but you may not love it or them.
There is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. You may love a friend, your pets or your family because of your affection for them. Being in love means in a since your life revolves around them. You couldn't imagine life without them.
2007-01-16 19:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by drew2376 3 · 29⤊ 5⤋
Love is a wonder to us all. Anyone who believes they can grasp the concept of love is extremely mistaken. Love can lead to happiness or even to sadness. True love lifts us up where we belong and without it we will surely fall. Though love can lead to depression, it can also save us from it as well. The greatest things you can learn about love is to love and be loved in return!
2007-01-17 10:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 24⤊ 2⤋
i think there is really love in the world! love is to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in careing is a state of mind in which one is troubled; worry, anxiety, or concern. so there is a diffence
2007-01-17 05:09:57 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~ Babyruth ~*~ 1 · 12⤊ 4⤋
believe me once you fall in love youll never get out of it. youll do anything for that person.youll literally wait over a year just until the next time youll be able to see them, you just want to be in there arms and never leave, never wanting them to leave, and always get excited once they call, well....i want to say more...but you cant really describe it....but youll know.
2007-01-19 20:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by CandyCorn 1 · 30⤊ 1⤋
yes you can.love is a thing where you always dream about the person and you cant stop thinking a bout them.when you say you dont like that person but inside you really love them.
2007-01-17 11:26:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 6⤋