I've never had a fight with his girlfriend (sarah) in my life. he's been dating her for about 2 years now, and i dont live with them. i get a drive from my dad about no more than 3 times a week and she thinks that i should be taking the bus because i am 20 years old now. i dont think i should have to take the bus because he is unemplyed, and this is a way i get to see him because i dont live with him. to make things short i didn't think much of the argument at all, i thought ok we had a fight no big deal. but she thought something else, she talked to my sister on msn and said things like " she's immature", " i dont mind if she thinks im a total *****, i just feel sorry for her" " tammy...well she has a very hard side to her...and she will have difficult relationships. i would hate to see her end up bitter like your mom"..im not bitter im a veryy nice person..i can be hard but only when you get on my bad side... so what do you think i should do?
2007-01-16 19:00:44 · 11 answers · asked by Very Very. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i want to be part of the family but at the same time i feel that if ignore her for just her yelling at me in the car about the bus i'll feel stupid but then if i show her what the msn conversation was about i would look like a snoop. (my sister showed me the conversation). shes a very nice person to me and others but shes very controlling over my dad. controls his every move. thanks and sorry its so long.
2007-01-16 19:05:14 · update #1
oh yeah the ride is to get to work so its only like a 5 minute drive lol.. and my mom drives me after to my house.. and i'd prefer not to wait in the blistering cold!
2007-01-16 19:08:18 · update #2
I think she wants you to react. why else would she go talk to your sis and say all those things about you?! If she has always been against your dad picking you up, creating a problem would be her solution for that too. Think abt it..if you go again to fight with her, she will complain to your dad..and then you'd get mad at your dad for not understanding your side of the story. And then it will make it easier for her to draw your father and you apart.
so my advice? Do NOT react. Ignore her. Inface be nice to her ( just to piss her off), and be nicer to your dad.
anywayz..hope this helps
tc
2007-01-16 19:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by Kk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to resort to name calling, but your dad's girlfriends sounds like she's the bitter and immature person. I'm guessing that she's older than you?
It sounds like she's threatened by you and knows that your dad loves you more than he loves her. She's trying to make you look bad, and shift the blame. But the more she rants and complains and insults you, the worse she looks.
So, don't stoop to her level. Keep on having a sensible relationship with your dad. And if she has a point, don't ignore it just because she made it. (Maybe she's worried that he's keeping a car that he can't afford, just so that he'll see you?) Anyway, sounds like one thing you can do is make an effort to see your father other then when he's playing your chauffeur. Coffee on Thursday afternoons?
Don't let your sister get caught in the middle. Your dad's girlfriend would just love it if you two started disagreeing.
She's not going to be around much longer, and she knows it. So, don't let her get under your skin.
2007-01-16 19:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jean Talon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a little bit hard to handle. You see, if you love your dad and your dad loves her, then you and her don't get along, you dad will not be happy. But i cant see what is the problem that your dad giving your a lift. She is too much. Do what your think is right and ignore her. You have blood-bond with your father, while she just someone from nowhere.
2007-01-16 19:10:50 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her... she is just jealous of your relationship with your father.
Unless you dad has a problem with driving you then it is nothing for you to worry about.
She sounds like she is trying to stir trouble and it is best to not bite and just let this one go. Talking behind your back with your sister sounds immature... she is the one with the problem, not you.
2007-01-16 19:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to here again. Explain to her your reasoning. If she doesn't get it, talk to your dad. Simply explain to him the situation and make sure you thank him for the rides ^_^. If she really is good about it, then she'll sit down and sort things out with you. Oh, and one other thing, looking for a cheap car on craiglist.com would be a good situation (then you can simply drive to your dad's house for a visit ~_^)
2007-01-16 19:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
first concern you do grasshopper is get her to communicate over with a school councilor,instructor,priest,rabbi, whoever and get the authorities in touch! IF he does hit her on your presence then use your judgment as the thanks to reply, in my opinion i might want to be a witness and phone the police and function him locked up for major different and toddlers battery, as for her psychological themes all you may do is be there to help her, and locate her some professional help
2016-10-15 08:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by falls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no control over what this person says or to whom, so do not worry about it, those that know you, know where she is comming from and is trying to attack you by stabbing you in the back, But if she never gets back any information on how you reacted, or even if you were aware of her imature behaviour, what is that going to do to her?
2007-01-16 19:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may be concerned because gas costs so much and your dad is unemployed. If she is working and paying for the gas, I understand her concern. You should talk to your dad about it and see how he feels. Also, stay sweet.
2007-01-16 19:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by upallnight 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Blow it off.
Her opinion is her opinion, and not your life.
She's sleeping with your dad, not you. However, in her mind, she's competing with you for his time. She's a part of his present, and you're the offspring of his past.
Ignore her.
2007-01-16 19:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it's not the ride, it's the visit that you need.
2007-01-16 19:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋