I just spent 30 min on the phone with my husband....?

Question

he called me and told me that he would be home by 12 30 because he wanted to go out with his friend after work and then he also had to take him to the airport at 4 30....at 1 am i called him and asked him where he was turns out he just got to the dennys about 12 45 (over 2 hours late.) and he told me he wasnt even gonna come home till after he dropped his friend off at the airport..so he wouldnt be here till about 5 30 or 6 am.... i started bitching at him since he didnt call me and tell me he was gonna be late and told him he needed to come home before taking his friend to the airport.we got into an argument and finally he said fine hed be home in 20 min.i dont feel bad about making him come home after all thats what i was wanting, but i know hell be pissed when he gets here.I feel that im justfied for doing what i did since he always says hell do something then just blows it off and tells me oh well you do it.and other things.my question is how should i handle him being mad at me

Answer 1

He will be mad at you and that you cannot change. Do what you would want for yourself, give him some space, then when the air clears a little sympathize about the fact that he wanted to spend time with his friend and that you totally understand that, but tell him that you also hope he understands that you got very worried, and that if he was going to be late or plans change at the very last minute, there is nothing a quick call would have fixed. That way he would have shown that he does have you in mind and that would have been the end of it. Sympathize then nicely, not yelling or throwing a tantrum, let him know he was a little inconsiderate of your feelings. Kiss, make up and never bring it up again. BUT.......be on the lookout for future dinners with friends that need a ride to the airport. *wink* Good luck sweetie

Answer 2

Lemme see. FIXED EXPENSES Home..............735 Auto ins..........140 Car Payment..560 Credit Card....150...Minimum?????? Student loans..200 TOTAL...........1785 Descretionary Expenditures Groceries....260 Gas..............100 Internet...........35....Delete Cell Phone.....85....Delete Dish................30....Delete SUB TOTAL..........510 Deletions...............150 NET........................360 TOTAL..................2145 Is this anything below your net take home pay? If so, something is missing. Those are pretty low Descretionary Expenditures, 360 If you're able to cut 150, please consider paying more than minimum on the credit card. Not knowing your interest rate, that could be eating your lunch. Don't know your locale, but Car insurance appears high, 140. That's 1680 per year. WOW. Are either of you under 25 or less? Unless you've had accidents or moving violations, you need to shop around. You may be able to bring this down to 80 or so. If you're under a hardship, can you do anything with the student loans? Internet seems high. NETZERO dialup is only 9.95 per mon. If you delete the dish and internet, rest assured you will be spending something for entertainment, and should. I don't see a land line phone here. Surely you have that for internet. SEE above. I see no utilities. You may save some on groceries but that is limited.

Answer 3

Your husband called you and told you he was going to spend some time with his friend before taking him to the airport. Did you "need" him to come home before dropping him off at the airport or just "want" him to come home so that he was not spending so much time with him before it was time to have to drop him off. This is important, because if you needed him to come home and he didn't, then you have a reason to be upset; however if you just are upset that he has been gone so long I think you may be upset unnecessarily. He was with his friend and you knew that. I realize that he was gone a long time; however he was just spending time with a friend before his friend leaves for the airport. Maybe next time, you can suggest that he bring his friend home to spend some time together before his flight. I would act calmly when he gets home, if you get angry and loud I guarantee he will do the same. The anger will only make things worse...stay calm and just voice your request so this won't happen again. Good luck!

Answer 4

It is obvious that you are suspecting your husband wether you admit it or not. Perhaps you have reason based on the past. If you do, then that means you have no respect for him either. Unfortunately when respect is gone you will always doubt his activities.
Since you made him angry over the phone, the consequences are now up to you to face. Tell him how you feel and what you were thinking about his alibis to you

Answer 5

If your husband can't see how wrong he is then I would be asking him a lot of questions about why he couldn't bring his friend to your house for dinner if he had that much time to waste before taking him to the airport.

Answer 6

He, like my husband, will turn things around and make you look like the bad person. Stand up to him and tell him what you are feeling.

Answer 7

Let him gripe, he shouldnt be out all hours of the night anyways, no matter what hes doing. He should be at home in bed with his wife.

Answer 8

I would have let him stay out and took a long bubble bath and drank some wine and watched a movie till i fell asleep. good riddence!

Answer 9

yes you should be mad but hes a grown man why did you order him home,hes a man not a dog.If your worried about him cheating if he did it it was well before he called you anyway so you accomplished nothing! Unless you like it when he yells at you?

Answer 10

He doesnt even need to be mad at you.You were worried coz he did not ring to tell you were he was .So dont bother if he gets mad just tell him its normal to worry if you dont know were the person you live with is.Tell him the facts and no more.If he shouts dont bother as long as you have told him why you got worried.