My husband and I are fighting alot and I think that we may be on the verge of a divorce, this would be my second and I don't want to loose my husband, I really love him, we have a son together and we don't want to split our family apart, What should I do, I am at my wits end here, Please help us.
2007-01-16 18:33:34 · 9 answers · asked by jessicahogan6985@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just to let everyone know we fight over EVERYTHING under the sun. ALL OF THE TIME
2007-01-16 19:26:34 · update #1
Well what exactly are you fighting about? You two need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk when neither one of you is angry. Try to pinpoint what exactly is causing you two to fight so much. It might not be your marriage. It could be outside stress causing stress inside your marriage.. Financial problems, job problems, lack of sleep, etc... For that matter when was the last time the two of you went out somewhere alone? Has the romance died? You two need to make a concious effort together to try and work through things. IF worse comes to worse and you can't figure it out, try marriage counseling. Never be ashamed to go to one because sometimes outside sources see things that we normally cannot see. Good luck
2007-01-16 18:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really haven't identified what you are fighting about in your question. I would do this though - analyze your relationship and honestly see if you can talk out your problems together working towards a resolution. If all you do is seem to shout and argue during these "conversations" than its likely the emotional feelings will likely cloud the underlying issues and cause more pain and damage. That being said, if you can't work it out, counseling would likely be your only viable neutral objective option. Going through friends and family only tests one's loyalties and won't truly be objective, no matter how good or bad the advise feels. When you can no longer work with your spouse towards solving your problems, either together or with an objective third party, then it is truly likely that your relationship is broken beyond the point of repair and only then can you analyze whether it is better to stay in an unhealthy relationship or break your family apart. For the sake of your family, determine where you are in relation to my advise and you will likely then know if you have work to do or are beyond the point of no return.
2007-01-16 19:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by extreme360 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably the first recommendation would be to seek therapy. If he is not willing to see a therapist. You should spend time and write to each other. Then, discuss what you wrote to each other for feedback. Also, take a small trip that can help.
2007-01-16 18:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by jdmusic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I would suggest marriage counseling . But before that I would really just sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel and ask if your loosing him or if you guys can be fixed if you both work at it .
2007-01-16 18:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ hello_kitty_xoxo ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't give you a answer if I don't no what your even fighting about sorry need more to go on.
2007-01-16 19:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid arguments. They lead to nowhere.Have patience, divorce is not a solution for anything.
2007-01-16 18:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just quit fighting back it takes to to fight how about throwing in some yes dears here and there,,,,,,just to see what happens!
2007-01-16 19:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough information to give advice don't know what your even fighting about.
2007-01-16 18:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him to get together w/ mine husband. they'll be 2 peas in a pod
2007-01-16 18:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by schneb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋