I have been single now for two years.
My last relationship was with one man in a monogamous relationship that worked much like a traditional marriage.we parted as friends and moved on. He quickly found another lover,but it was with someone less than half his age that my ex supports in every way,including financially.i'm happy it works for him,but that arrangement would not work for me. It seemed much easier to find gay men interested in a traditional monogamous relationship when I was single 15 years ago.my question is, are there any independent gay men out there left who seek a truely monogamous life partner?I would love to hear from guys who have been successful in finding one.It would give me hope and encouragement!
2007-01-16 18:30:39 · 5 answers · asked by Bruce C 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Here in the Philippines it is also quite difficult to find a guy who is into a monogamous relationship. A lot of Filipino guys are into a quick sex without any commitments. Luckily I found mine. This April we will be celebrating our 7th year together. We had our ups and downs, rock bottom down. It is really difficult to maintain a monogamous relationship if you are surrounded by temptations. I basically do not have much gay friends or very close gay friends. Most gay guys fall in love with their friends which is really a no no. Me and my boyfriend usually prefer going to straight places that are gay friendly instead of gay bars. And most of all I consider my boyfriend as my only best friend and lover.
2007-01-16 19:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by PAXson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are...but when I was 37 I was really dumped by my partner of 7 years..it was a monogamous relationship and all but it ended horribly...Just when I thought I would live the rest of my life alone..my current husband of 20 years came along...in fact, a lot of men I know seemed to meet long term partners in their 30's and 40's....so i don't think for a minute that you won't meet someone. But you never find one when you look too hard:)
2007-01-16 18:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a close gay male friend who has been happily married in a monogamous relationship for 17 years.. his relationship has had ups and downs, like all relationships do, but he seems to be very happy..
it does work, and there are guys out there! keep looking and stay positive.. people love meeting happy, confident, possitive people.. never forget that! good luck!
2007-01-16 18:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I resent it to a small degree, but it doesn't ruin my day. I live in a pretty liberal city, but there are still jerks around. So my partner and I don't hold hands out in public -- you just never know who you're going to pass by, so why run the risk. This is not paranoia, it's just being pragmatic. It certainly doesn't lessen our love to refrain from holding hands in public. Hell, we do limited hand-holding at home. So yes, it would be great to be able to openly hold hands in public without fear of being disparaged by strangers. But we're not gnashing our teeth about it or carrying picket signs. The world has never been -- nor will it ever be -- a perfect place. In the grand scheme of Things To Worry About, public hand-holding is pretty far down on our list. You have to pick your battles wisely in life.
2016-05-23 23:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am alone and i don't see much ot either.
hopefully a lot of posts will ahppen on this issue.
the internet is not the way to go for relationship minded people.
2007-01-16 18:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋