would u call this verbal abuse?

Question

when bf drinks he gets mad and yells at me for our roomates,he breaks things such as the doors,cups and pics of us it happens every couple of weeks and when sober he wont talk about it we have together for 9 years and i dont know what to do i love him but at the same time i dont want to be with someone who is being distructive he has never hit me or anything like that he just gets mad and hits the wall or whatever is near

Answer 1

Dump that guy. He will eventually hit you.

Answer 2

If a person gets mad and Punch's or breaks something they will eventually hit you! The drinking thing is a problem as well! You might want to try and get him some help, if you really love him!

Answer 3

It is verbal and mental abuse. It is verbal because he is yelling at you and I assume saying vulgar things. It is mental abuse because he is breaking things in an effort to scare you and make you think he will physically hurt you. Next time, I would call the cops and get him set straight. Press chargers, and don't give up. He needs an intervention, so just be strong....better yet, I would just leave him, but I knwo that might be hard for you since you have 9 years of investment in your relationship with him. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Has he been doing this for 9 years or did it just start recently? Either way, you need to tell him his behavior when he drinks is scarring you and that he can either get help or you will leave. Why would you stay if he is becoming violent? Just because it hasn't been directed at you yet, doesn't mean it won't. Tell him if he doesn't get help for his drinking and anger issues then the relationship is over.

Answer 5

Today is the door, cups, bottles and pictures. What about tomorrow, the day after. the future.
Dont take risk with this guy, he may get violent and also physical. Before he hurt anyone or you, he needs to seek professional help or attend some anger management counselling. He may have some unknown problems that ignite him to act in this manner. Get some help before it is too late.

Good Luck

Answer 6

If he is behaving like this, beating u up is not too far away. Think about this girl...............can you live like this forever? More over, would you bring children into a home like this? Aren't you of more worth than this?

Feelings of love have to be mutual for an intimate relationship to work. Always look at the long term. Beside, the very fact that you are asking this question shows that you yourself feel that things are not right the way they are....................... do something about it.

Answer 7

Wrong category as you aren't marrried. He has anger management issues that manifest via alcohol. He hasn't hit you yet (not saying that he will). Does he yell at you about the roommates? If they are his problem, why don't the two of you get your own place? You didn't give your ages, but after 9 years...

Answer 8

That would be considered verbal abuse...borderline physical if you feel threatened by his physical behavior. You need to talk to him when he is sober and tell him things must change. If he is unable to talk to you or unable to change, you need to consider leaving. I'm sure you don't want to put up with this the rest of your life.

Answer 9

Get him to go to AA. Not all alcoholics are homeless winos. One definition of alcoholic is having a personality change when drinking. None of the definitions are about how much they drink.

Answer 10

Nope, that's not verbal abuse, that's physically acting out due to a drinking problem.

Answer 11

Yes, I would call it Verbal Abuse. I would also call it Emotional Abuse, and get the heck out of that relationship. It will NOT get better, and you will be VERY lucky if it doesn't get worse.