Im 29 I first discoverd my bf was a alcoholic after only 6 mths of dating, After a heated arguement during his drunken stage, he tossed a glass @ my face, I left him, 3 days later I discoverd I was pregnant. I took him back.. back then I knew all, I don't belive in abortions ( when it's my own stupidty for not being more safe)but, damn it I was going to make this work for our child, i have failed. my parents are passed on now, I have no siblings and I have no friends,( that would be a risk of me leaving) I'm not allowed to work, so naturally I have no money saved up, he drinks a few times a week & when he does, it lasts for 30 some hours, I think hes an abuser of alcohol. He's a mean SOB. I try to avoid him,(when hes drunk) but he always seems to want to follow where ever i'am and instigates me, I cry& beg for him to stop,He won't & then its the next day he loves me so much.Pls help me get out,HOW? Our child will be devasated, the love those two share is unreal, he just hates me
2007-01-16 17:58:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Look online to the closest big city and you should find a sheltered for battered and abused women (mentally abused also). They will house you there and help you start your life over with your child. The location is kept private so he will not find you. Do it for you and your child. He won't change and you can't change him. The abuse will only get worse and it is easier with the younger your child is. I will pray for you.
2007-01-16 18:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by sheila b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it seems your in a bad place-- but, you did know he had a problem-- did you just think he would change because of you? well he can- but You will have to do all the work and expect nothing in return--- you will have to be the bigger of the two of you and try to make it work--- Pray- God can make things easier on you- but not without effort on your part--- you have a child to care for , so... be a good mother and wife(you are whether you know it or not). you should treat him the way you want him to treat you- this does not mean he will (not right away anyhow). and the drinking- if he gets abusive, get him help(call the police) , it is the right thing to do for all the family members--- you always have a friend- He(GOD) is always there , you just need to listen to Him---- it was never told to anyone "it is going to be easy" (life) maybe you are in this situation because you need to be alone to find Him(GOD)>
2007-01-17 04:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by drox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child will be more devastated in the long run if you stay. Two parents are ideal, but what is your child learning in that atmosphere? The man is an alcoholic, an abuser of alcohol, mean and controlling in the extreme. He keeps you by making sure that you think you don't have anyone to help or anywhere to go.
Most communities have hotlines and shelters for abused women and their children. You will receive shelter and support from those who will know just what you are going through. And remember, you took him back once and HE failed. I am sorry that it is so rough for you right now, but your life will open up for you.
2007-01-16 18:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh man!!! I am so sorry you have had to go thru all that B.S.!!
I would recommend you contact a ministry by Steve Arterburn called "New Life Ministries". They do a lot of counseling work for and with people who are addicts. (..and yes....he is an addict..addicted to alcohol)
They could also offer you counseling,too (In some cases..free)
It is a very good thing that you are looking for some kind of help!! I am proud of you for that!!
But please...contact New life......NOW!!!! I know they can help you...and they might be able to help you put your marriage back together also..but it will all take time....
The first step is always the hardest one to take...but I believe you can do it!! I KNOW you can do it!!
Bless your Heart!! ♥
2007-01-16 18:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're wondering too a lot. have not you seen each of the communicate interior the media about infertility the previous couple years? And wondering logically, 10 years is a lengthy time period to attend. If he became gonna marry you, then he'd maximum in all probability do it interior 5 years and also you may anticipate that childrens might want to come interior 2 years(till both one among you easily do want to attend). He quite in many cases in all probability concept that you wanted to attend too lengthy and it became a farfetched determination or exaggerated.
2016-10-15 08:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by falls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to hide a video camera and tape these episodes. That will be the proof you will need to gain sole custody of your child. No one would trust him on one of his drunk binges. Then go your county sheriff and ask for protection. Then find a women's shelter. Some counties provide trainig courses for you to get a job. Some even provide vouchers for child care. The main thing is to get out FAST!. Good luck.
2007-01-16 18:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by bamafannfl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but your stuck with a psycho. Tell him its over and get an order of protection. Maybe if u have cousins or uncles that can help u out. Try to find someone better.
2007-01-16 18:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't invest more than 2 - 3 yrs. in a relationship without marriage
and don't marry if you are aware of any character flaws in your
potential mate because they will only get worse after marriage.
2007-01-16 18:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stuck in a rut.
2007-01-16 18:03:21 · answer #9 · answered by Big C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋