i got married 4 mths ago... im 21 years.. i am actuali thinking if it is too earli for me to hav kids?? ... suggestions pls.. (i love kids!)
2007-01-16 17:44:57 · 19 answers · asked by sUnseT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a young mother of 3 wonderful boys I think I can give you a very honest opinion. I say wait. Enjoy your spouse and develop your relationship. You have a lot of time to have kids later and letting yourself and your marital relationship mature will only make you a better parent. There are things that you should be able to indulge in freely before you have children to take care of like traveling, partying and other grown up activities. That doesn't mean that after kids life is no fun, it just means that kids are a lot of work. They take time, money, patience and a lot of plans fall through due to illness, school, activities, etc. Enjoy being a couple for a while and when there are no doubts, add children to your family. You'll be happy that you waited. Good luck!
2007-01-16 17:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by Momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask you self are you financially ready, they are really expensive. Are you finished with school? Have you established a career and what you want to do in life. Have you travel, lived a little, enjoy your spouse. When you have kids its all over at least for the first couple of years. I really think you are two young and I know you haven't done much. Enjoy each other for a while you have a few more years.
2007-01-17 01:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by Smile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question is totally up to you. If you're thinking its too soon, then I'd go with that. There is plenty of time to have children. I am 20 and pregnant with my first child. I am ready to be a mother, but if I was older, I'd be a little more wiser. People are different though. You and your husband need to enjoy the marriage life before rushing into children.
2007-01-17 01:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by mommy2be031207 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This discussion should be between you and your husband. If you two are ready to have kids, go for it. But they are a lot of responsibility. Are you financially secured, etc.... However, you are young. Enjoy your time with your husband first and then maybe in a year or 2, think about having one.... Good luck!!!! :o) n
2007-01-17 01:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait a good 5-6 years - if not more.
I was a way better mom in my late 20s/ early 30s then I ever would have been younger. Not that I would have been a "bad" mom - but there is just something that happens to you as you age that gives you a greater sense of confidence.
2007-01-17 01:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you are having doubts dont do it. Wait until your sure....children are a big responsibility. Im 22...and only engaged and i have a 4 month old daughter. It's really hard! Sometimes I think that Im gonna pull my hair out.
2007-01-17 01:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by bjd72003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait! Two reasons:
1) you need time to bond with your husband
2) you need time to get established first: do you have a house? get one first. savings? at least 3 months of your income. do you have any type of retirement vehicle set up- like a 401k or any IRA?
does either one of you want to go to school? now is the time to do it.
You have plenty of time to have kids. Remember, when you have kids they are with you at least 18 years. 18+years of putting someone else's needs/wants,desires ahead of yours-per kid!
2007-01-17 02:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jaedyn=God has heard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI its very good to ask when should u have child. immediately u should have because now a days very much busy life in this life who knows any thing happen.in these preventive methods any thing may happen so immediately u should have one .after that u take a break i.e. 4-5 years.even in Ur bond with ur partner also will increase
2007-01-17 01:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by madan k 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't have kids untill YOU are very sure you want to have kid's. Haveing kids changes everything, even your marriage. Take your time be sure.
2007-01-17 03:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by jessicahogan6985@sbcglobal.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, you're too young. enjoy your marriage for a while and start thinking about kids in a couple of years.
2007-01-17 01:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by prettyme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋