2007-01-16 17:39:28 · 17 answers · asked by seaofcolour 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Oh my, YES! I have a 6 mos old and a 2 & 1/2 year old. I find it really difficult. I love my kids to distraction, but noone told me how hard it was going to be! Especially lately, we have had a spell of bad weather that has kept me at home.
Sometimes it is not even easy to stay in touch with friends (an event that always makes me feel better). My single or childless friends have different lives. My friends with kids are just as busy and frazzled as I am!
Of course, when I can look past the fatigue, it helps to remember that this all temporary, time goes so fast! I once read this quote somewhere about life with small children:
The days are long, but the years are short!
Good luck to you!
2007-01-16 17:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kate A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh thank god it's not just me!
Yes, often times I do feel somewhat like I'm losing touch with the world. I sometimes wonder, "What happened to all my friends??" and stuff like that. I'm a stay-at-home mom of a 1 year old micropreemie daughter...since it's Winter and her immune system is still very weak, her doctor has suggested we keep her indoors and away from most people, especially other babies and kids, so that she doesn't get sick. Well, this is driving me nuts! Our "Winter" season here in California isn't very long, but it still drives me crazy that me and her have to be away from the world. While she was in the NICU (hospital) for 4 months, I was there EVERY day and night...I spent nights there even. And my sole world was HER and getting her stronger so she could come home...I really DID lose touch with the world during those 4 months.
But this Spring I'm taking her OUT and we're going to find some play groups, etc.
Also, I've decided that I can give myself one or two days/nights a month that I will use just for ME, if I want to. I finally went out shopping with my sister a couple weeks ago...first time I was away from Skylar (left her with daddy!). I was only gone for 3-4 hours, but it was a much needed ME-day. =P I came back refreshed and ready to smother her in kisses!
2007-01-16 18:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by Megan V 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every single day...we have an 11 yr old, a 2 yr old, and a 1 yr old...DH is gone all the time, he drives truck, so he's only home about 4 days a month...that leaves me with three kids to deal with...needless to say, we stay home A LOT...I can't get anyone in the family to help much, the two youngest ones are a little rough to deal with...they never stop moving...none of my 'friends' have kids, and if they do, they still just want to party and go out...so that leaves me with talking to my grandmother (76 yr old) every morning, and DH when he gets a chance to call...I dno't know my neighbors all that well, most of them have kids, but we've only been here a year, and they're not very talkative...feels like I'm alone all the time...and as for the world...we'll it keeps going but I'm stuck...lol...
2007-01-19 03:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by Dales' Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually no. I have never let myself lose "touch". I am out and about most days, my husband and i run a multimedia business from home so i work. I see my friends and family go out for coffee and afternoon tea at cafes.....all with my 3month old daughter. I have NEVER thought that having a child was restrictive, just a matter of logistics. And I have 2 sons as well.
2007-01-16 19:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by dragonaotearoa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes! But then I got a babysitter for a few hours every few days just to get out and get in touch again. The world is much larger than dirty diapers, wipes, and formula! I'm happier and so is the little one.
2007-01-16 17:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by Megumi D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. I can't remember what it was like to have a social life, but there are people to help. Find a playgroup then find a mum who you like and make a weekly time to swap kids (ie one week you have her kids for a few hours, the next she has yours) just remember to use the time to yourself for yourself - NO HOUSEWORK or grocery shopping etc - go for a coffee, to the hairdresser or even just enjoy some quiet time at home with a book. It will save your sanity.
2007-01-16 17:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 06:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!! It's normal to retreat into your cocoon. Come out when you're ready. In the meantime, keep in touch with old friends and make new ones. I wonder if you're feeling sad? Depression is a big problem. If you feel persistently sad, I hope you'll be smarter than me and get help ASAP.
2007-01-16 17:50:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, everyone feels that. However, it's up to you to make sure you don't get this way further ... get out into the world with your kids, go shopping, take them out to parks and places, etc. Talk with other parents and people while shopping, etc. Keep up on news and events in your community and the larger world.
2007-01-16 23:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh yeah, lol. I am a single mom... I never get out without kids.. unless my daugther is in school, then I can go shopping... I never was a partier.. but now I CAN'T go out for drinks or even a night of bowling... it costs so much to pay for a night out and sitters... I will feel more this way I am sure when this baby is born... thank god for t.v. and radios....
2007-01-16 17:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋