Her and her fiance were hang out a total of 31 days, after two weeks of dating they got engaged and have set the date to May of 07. Meaning by the time they get married they would only be dating for six months. Should I tell her my concerns or keep quiet? Either way I'm happy for her. She totally deserves happiness. But come on who gets engaged after two weeks of dating? HELP! Let me know what u guys think.
2007-01-16 17:21:46 · 10 answers · asked by Sweet Shay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think that it is too soon as well for your friend to get married. But telling her so would only make her mad. I would go to the wedding and keep my mouth shut. Maybe there is something unique and special to their relationship that takes the rest of the world years to find. I would ask her unbiased questions like, are you nervous, have you picked out your dress, where will you get married, what have your parents said about this, what have his parents said, where are you guys going to live. I would talk about the benefits of marriage, i.e, discounts on automobile insurance and health insurance. Talking about these grown-up issues will make your friend realize, hopefully, that she is moving to fast. But, this is something that your friend has to realize. You can't force her eyes to see what you see.
2007-01-16 17:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by Nique T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should seriously tell her. she doesnt know what she is getting herself into, a big commitment. She may think she knows the guy but trust me, it takes years to really KNOW someone. You have to talk to her. Sit down in a quiet place and tell her that she might be rushing it and getting married is a big commitment. Also that she may not even know if that man is the one because of her lack of time she is not doing to understand the man better. If she gets mad or is of any feeling similar just tell her that you care for her and if anything happens you will be there. Also that you are happy but am worried for what could happen. Hopefully she will understand. just talk to her.
2007-01-16 17:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by Cornelia Anabelle Banana Bo Peep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hahahaha, how ancient are you??? You ought to be lovely younger and naive in the event you are not able to see via her lies. The rationale she has no longer informed her peers approximately you is (a) she both has no goal of honestly divorcing her husband or (b) you're only a diversion even as she is getting the whole thing looked after out and she is going to drop you for anybody she quite needs to be with as soon as her divorce is last. Think approximately it - no longer many guys might be dull ample to contact her with a 10-foot pole even as she's nonetheless married, so that you being all big name-struck and in love together with her ought to be very soothing and flattering to her vanity. She's concerned approximately what individuals at her church will suppose - that is the most important snigger of all of them. Wake up hon, she does no longer love you. She is utilizing you for a crutch in the course of an unsettled time in her existence, and as soon as tender crusing has lower back, she is going to kick you apart with out a moment notion.
2016-09-08 02:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your friend, because if she is old enough to get Married then she is old enough to make her own decisions. It does not matter one way or the other if you tell her she is making a mistake in marrying too soon because my guess is she will not listen to you or anyone else. Keep quiet in making her see she is doing wrong and you will be able to keep her as your friend. Wish her a happy life and who knows maybe she will make this marriage last.
2007-01-16 17:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were married 2 weeks after they met, they were married for 36 years until my father's death...You have no idea what the future holds for these two, so you have no right telling her what she should and shouldn't do with HER future. If you don't want to marry a guy that soon after you meet him that will be YOUR choice, this is HER'S.
2007-01-16 17:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone, I wanted to get engaged in two weeks but we held off, then we married and were happy for 20 years
2007-01-16 17:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER but be gentle simply say: I love you and trust you as a friend; but isn't this a bit fast?
also tell her that you're happy for her, don't scare her off but if you have a feeling you should say something regardless of weather she wants to hear it, after all friends need to look out for each other!
2007-01-16 17:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by osellius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you want her to stay a close friend then you keep your mouth shut. Close friends are supportive and non judgemental of their friends and supportive when things dont work out. What might not be right for you might be right for her. Dont dampen her moment, run with it and be there for the good and bad should it turn sour.
2007-01-16 17:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tell her how you feel but in the end its her choice.
but you can help her realize it might be too soon.
did she know the guy before they started dating?
anyways let her know love takes work and no one falls in love in two weeks. dont confuse lust with love.
2007-01-16 17:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please keep quiet, if you don't she will think you are jealous and she will get mad at you. if you keep quiet and she breaks up or gets a divorce she will know she can come crying to you and she won't be upset w/ you.
2007-01-16 17:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by prettyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋