This girl I've known for over 8 yrs is someone I could always trust, I could tell her anything, we've never faught and we've never had a disgreement. But about 2 yrs ago I met this boy I ended up falling madly in love with, we are currently in a relationship... Anyway, my boyfriend and I just recently kissed for the first time, my bestfriend still doesn't know, but the issue is that she seems to always have something bad to say about him and I haven't really mentioned anything to her yet but lately I've been snapping back with comments just as bad. I love him so much but she really doesn't know much about all that and is automatically making false assumptions, as many times as I correct her she still doesn't seem to get the hint. I haven't told her that him and I are now official because I don't want to hear her bull, but I also don't want him to think that I want to hide our relationship..... if it comes down to it....I think I'm going to have to choose.....your opions?
2007-01-16 17:15:48 · 5 answers · asked by Chikk230 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh...and by the by, she also constantly says that I can do better, but I think that this is the best I can get and I think this may be the man I spend the rest of my life with....
2007-01-16 17:21:39 · update #1
Before you choose, and we both know the choice will be him, I would get alone with her, no one to interupt you and tell her how much her friendship has meant to you and that you want it to continue, but that her attitude about this guy has been upsetting you a lot and causing you to doubt that she is looking out for your best interests as a friend should. Explain to her that meeting and being with a guy is part of life's path and that as your friend you want her to share the joy you feel in finding someone you care about. But that instead shes been showing u the opposite.
Tell her your dream for her is to also find someone to love and that you would support her as a friend when she finds someone too. Tell her that she cannot expect you to go thru life and never have changes happening to you. Things cant always be as they were. Tell her you want her to be a part of your life but that if she cant be supportive of you and this guy that you will be moving on without her. Tell her you hope she makes a choice that proves shes a real friend and not selfish.
If she cant hear you when you say all that then she isnt a true friend. I can think of only one reason a real friend wouldnt want you to be with someone you love and that would be if he is abusing you. (Also make sure nothing is going on you dont know about like is he being rude to her when youre not looking)
Good luck and I hope you can get thru this without losing your friend.
2007-01-16 17:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if she is your best friend: TELL HER avoiding telling her will only make it worse in the long run
second ask her why she doesn't like him and discuss weather you two can comprimise.
three ask her why she feels that way about him
four you should never choose a boyfriend over a friend; in fact you shouldn't have to choose at all!
2007-01-16 17:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by osellius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time make smarter decisions. Relax, wait til your period is supposed to arrive, if it's late then take a pregnancy test. View your options from there. Be sure to make a doctors appointment in the mean time.
2016-05-23 23:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is just jealous of how good things are going with you and your boyfriend
2007-01-16 17:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by just_missp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her.
2007-01-16 17:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋