My Filipina fiance joined me here in Australia 4 months ago on a fiance visa. We are supposed to get married before 9 months up when her Fiance visa expires. Now she is pregnant and yet I am NOT prepared to marry her. My thoughts about her have changed considerably. The baby is mine....I am sure about that and I am willing to be the father. As far as I know, no one else knows about the pregnacy, incuding her parenst and siblings---I find that strange--I thought she would have told them by now. I know she will soon ask when we will be getting married, and it is then when I will most likely say hmmmmm....What is the best way to handle this situation with out creating a lot of animosity form my fiance? It is far too common for ladies in her shoes to file fictitious violence claims and the like. I don't mind her remaining in Australia, only that I don't want the say "I Do"! Any suggestions?
2007-01-16 17:07:29 · 9 answers · asked by Chito 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I hate to agree with everyone and be the naysayer, but you probably shouldn't have been having sex with this girl and getting her pregnant if you weren't planning on marrying her.
That's the first thing. She probably has a lot of trust invested in you. Is this something that you'd be able to work out at all? I promise you, you're probably going to make her VERY BITTER if you tell her that you're "done" with her.
Especially after getting her pregnant. I had cold feet just before MY wedding, but for me it was because I was just nervous.
Don't do anything rash. Stew it over, this is a very important decision.
2007-01-16 17:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by jokerscard692000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 08:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by falls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too late now, guy.
Be a man and make a family for your baby!
If you are willing to be the "dad" then you need to be willing to take care of the baby!
It's normal to be scared about the responsibility, everyone is and you are normal for that... but do the right thing!
2007-01-16 17:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should attack you with all she can. Put yourself in her shoes and imagine yourself being sent home pregnant and alone. If you can so easily dump her, I am sure you won't support the child either:(
After all you have done to her, you worry about her animosity, thats a sad situation even though no woman should be saddled with you.
2007-01-16 17:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by Nort 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you feel that you dont want to marry her then be honest with
her, she need to know how you feel, you about become a father
and that should be the most important thing right now in your
life, things change people change etc. but honestly is the best
thing you can do.
2007-01-16 17:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...you should have kept your pants zipped...now eirther marry her or don't and support the baby till it's 18....(and her as long as she can get money out of you...) You made a BIG mistake, now own up to it...
2007-01-16 17:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Chrys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sleep in the bed you make.
also, you got owned. the asian bride epidemic is spreading, and they know what works: sex for citizenship, sealed with a baby.
you wanted a sex toy, but forgot about the repercussions. she wants out of her country and you wanted a porn toy. even swap, but now theres a problem.
i hope she is genuine, for your sake. and vice versa if she is.
sorry dude, but you are in the sh!t. even if you dont marry her, you have altered your life for ever.
2007-01-16 17:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you start feeling this way when you found out she was pregnant? well you made your bed now lay in it and take care of your responsibilities.
2007-01-16 17:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better man up and marry this girl cos it seems she is down for you.Marry her now before she gets mad and does something stupid.
2007-01-16 17:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by sanmi . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋