I am hasseled by it just about every day...I'm a 20 year old girl, pagan, bisexual and I'm still a virgin. why do guys and some girls think thats such a bad thing? I have stopped myself from kissing or anything else with another person until I find that right person. I admit I'm not the prettiest person in the world (I'm way overweight and I have very low self-esteem) but I've wondered why does everyone I ask think that having sex with your partner is the key to a good relationship? You can have a relationship w/o sex...I mean if you don't love the person, whats the use in doing "it" with them anyway?
and plz nobody say anything about me being a pagan and bisexual....I've done made those decisions for myself so don't try to lecture me. Thanks!
2007-01-16 16:53:29 · 19 answers · asked by Supernatural Fan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I fail to see how this is a problem. You've obviously set standards and morals for yourself, and any guy who can't respect that isn't for you.
As far as what others think (of you being a virgin, or Pagan, or bisexual), who cares? You've made these choices in life yourself, so no one has the right to lecture you. Therefore, don't worry about what others think.
And as far as sex itself goes...it is a good thing. But it isn't the MOST important thing in a relationship. You've no doubt heard the addage of sex being "the icing on the cake." It's 100% correct. You can have a cake without icing, but icing without a cake is not a cake. Silly-sounding, I know, but there's truth to it.
The important thing is that you stick to what you believe is right for you. Keep on keepin' on, and the right person will come along sooner or later. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-16 17:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by White Dude X 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a virgin at 16 years of age I consider that to be a good thing and not a bad thing. Actually it is good news. You don't have to have sex or loose your virginity to have life or have a life. Don't feel pressured into loosing your virginity. Having sex does not make you more healthy or more normal. People can stress about not being sexual active and that can be unhealthy, so don't stress about it. Sometimes people feel pressured to prove that they are normal and not odd and get involved in sexual activity when they may only want friendship, companionship even closeness, tenderness, affection, sharing moments and conversation and build a bond from that. Having sex can rush things, that's if they were ever meant to be sexually involved in the first place. When the timing is right for sexual interaction then the better and worth waiting for. Hopefully it will be with the person that your meant to have that (sexual) experience with, (if it is meant to be). When it does happen the more mature you are and the older you get the better you will handle the situation, the moment. Hopefully with age comes wisdom (patience and a better understanding of yourself and others).
2016-05-23 23:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE STRONG! While I do think that gender confusion is generally resolved with sexual discovery..that noted....sharing your body with another is an attempt to make a special connection ..a deep and intimate bond with another. Those who want your virginity are selfish..immature and shallow. They do not understand that the oneness in body is also a oneness in spirit and mind and so it should be done with great care and not rushed into. Love is born of unconditional friendships that unify two people and if you have someone who can listen and hear with more than just the eyes and look and see with more than just the ears then you may have found that someone to share yourself with. It has to be about more than sex though. Never share your body with anyone who will not respect you enough to be a partner with you and put you first in there life. It takes time to discover that. Use that time.
There is nothing more awesome than to be able to share that bonding with someone for the first time and know they are a part of you forever. Look within...to find that connection..it should not be about race, age, religion or culture. If they like to laugh and write ..enjoy the arts are ..creative, tolerant, have a real passion and romance and a love for the sea....those things define us. Look inside to find who you want to be one with. Oh and I'm sorry I wrote so much...I'm a frustrated ex-Jour...HAHA.
2007-01-17 10:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's NOT a bad thing. They're just sulky cause you're not putting out and therefore they can't get any. Or maybe they're just bummed and jealous cause they're not. Like all the jerks who get bent out of shape cause I go to the bar with them and drink water while they get trashed. You think I can't have fun sober? Can you not have fun sober? That's sad. And so it is with being a virgin. If you can't hang on to a lover without screwing them, that's really sad.
Be a virgin. Embrace Artimis, she's got your back. Having sex with your partner is the key to a manipulative relationship. Not that its inclusion guarantees it, mind you, but it sure helps alot. You are Parthos, enjoy it. Your body is a temple of the Divine. Share it only with those who are most worthy. You need to learn to love your own body, discover what it is and what about it brings you joy before you share it anyway. For yourself.
2007-01-18 02:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by kaplah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres absolutley nothing wrong with being a virgin at 20. Some people do it religously and some poepl just do it by choice. But its their desicion people shouldint lecure them about their descions. And yes your right i think the most strongest relationships are the ones that havent had any intimacy in them. Then you know that the person your with is not with you becuase of your body or sexual reasons. you know there still with you becuase they love you and care aout you and want to be with you. And that my friend is true love.
Hope that helped good luck!
2007-01-16 16:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by gypsytrend14 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No absolutely not. Consider yourself one of the few lucky ones. I have only one regret, I wish I would've waited until I was married. You still have the chance to know what it's like to say that you gave a very specail part of yourself to the one person who you love the most. It would also help stregthen the bond between you and the one who you give yourself to because only they have been with you. Don't make the same mistake as me. Wait until you're married.
2007-01-16 17:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with being a virgin. its great to wait for the one you love to share an important time in your life. just imagine all the people that wish they waited for the right person. sex in a relationship is just a tiny part of the pie.
2007-01-16 17:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by bluebearstuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with it. I'll be 20 in the spring and I'm a virgin. I'll probably turn 20 and still be a virgin. and I'm a pagan. so ignore those who don't like that fact and forget them. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT!!
2007-01-19 13:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~AmethystMoonBeams~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your body, you do what you want.
Being a virgin is no better than being promicuios. Don't let other people's beleifs and insecurities bear you down.
And remember, being a vrigin is only a bad thing is you WANT to get laid.
best of luck to yah.
2007-01-16 16:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by gixjoeb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BAD!!!!??? wow can't bleave you asked this lol its AWSOME! you shouldn't even think about it being bad guys will go crazy for you what are you talking about anyguy would want a virgin girl specially when everyones not a virgin nowadays since their 13 so relax its awsome not even close to being bad
2007-01-17 12:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋