How do you get through to your husband to get him to understand that whatever is important to me should be important to him. Or whatever upsets me should be important to him. We fight about different little "issues" but taking those issues aside, I try to at least get him to understand that by him not wanting to understand how I, as a person, operate we will never get anywhere and will fight around in circles. I have shared my childhood with him and explained why I am the way I am (I make myself sound like a freak, but I'm really quite relaxed, he just pushes my buttons!) and he rolls his eyes. How do you turn a blind eye when all you want is your partner to cooperate with you? I take the time to understand why he does the things he does, but he sees that sort of "psychology" as a waste of time.
2007-01-16 16:24:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not one to hide my feelings, so trust me, we have spoken about these topics at length but to no avail. I am happy to tell him how I feel but it doesn't work. I'm always happy to be the listener too, so don't think I'm the only one talking. :)
2007-01-16 16:32:06 · update #1
I don't know where someone got that we have been together 25 years! I didn't say that anywhere. We've only been together for 2 years.
2007-01-16 16:52:01 · update #2
Guys just want to be appreciated, and if you are constantly trying to explain how you operate, then you aren't appreciating him. Guys are simple, give them food, sex, and time with their friends/hobbies, and they will do anything in their willpower to make you happy.
If you've told him over and over, then he KNOWS. Guys aren't stupid. Just let it go, and focus on your family, and the good aspects of your marriage, and things will change.
2007-01-16 16:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Missing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been with this guy for 25 and a half years. Has he always been the same?
He's pushing your buttons on purpose. He knows you and he knows how to do it. What do you do when he rolls his eyes? Do you get pissed off and walk away? Does it shut you up? What ever you do, change it. Look at your life as if it we're 20 some years from now, on your death bed. Now look back. What was most important and what was least important things to you? Was it worth all the bickering about your childhood? I'm on my computer tonight because my husband didn't want to put out, I'm kind of in a bad mood so go give your husband some and everything will get worked out.
2007-01-17 00:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Father I lift up pmc, and I ask that you would interven in their marriage and teach them your ways, and I break all the curses of the devil that is upon their marriage, I ask that you help them through this so that they have an awesome marriage....in Jesus mighty name....amen
2007-01-17 00:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him and communicate your feelings about this.... If the communication is off and hard you may need marriage counseling for this. http://www.drphil.com http://www.marriagetoday.org
2007-01-17 00:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋