I Really fill so bad,i dont think my daughter Loves me?

Question

today is my birthday an i called my 11yrold daughter but when i was trying to talk to her an tell her how much i miss her an love her an all the outfits i bought her babyphat,etc high price clothes,while im talkin to her she told me she was bout to go to sleep,an hung up in my face who is her to tell me she going to sleep im her daddy, trying to be a real dad in her life im not sum lil boy dwn the street trying to get wit her i dont care how sleepy she was i fill she shoud have talk to me until i was finish what i was talking to her about she havent seen me in a year, i send her clothes all the time me an her mother cant get along for nuthing in the world cus she to jealous she dont let me have my kids cus she tells me she dont want her kids to be around me an my new olady kids it doesnt matter im not wit her anymore its all about the kids now but she is a dam asshole an may be turnin my daughter against me i really fill bad an heart broken,my child hung up in my face on my BIRTHDAY

Answer 1

don't take offense to it she's becoming a teenager, i used to treat my dad like that when i was growing up, and as for her mother trying to turn the kids against you you should maybe try to get partial custody if you don't already have it and tell that bitc* to grow the fuc* up and stop playing games with the kids. have a good birthday and keep loving your baby and spending time with her and soon she will grow out of the angry kid bit and realize that her daddy loves her. keep your head up and continue to be a good dad, trust me it'll pay off.

Answer 2

OK first off buying her stuff is not showing her love and if her mother can't respect the fact that you have moved on with your life and have a new person in it then its time you take her to court in that case save your money and start paying an lawyer rather than trying to buy your daughter she will thank you later as far as her hanging up on you think about how hurt she feels knowing her dad is with someone else ( "your olady and her kids ) rather than with her and maybe she is being told by her mother that you are the reason she hasn't seen you in a yr you have to look at it from a 11yr old child's point of view and not only that but having a father figure in your life is what helps when dealing with relationships in later yrs all i can say is start trying to get visitation the longer you wait the longer it will be before you can start trying to undo the damage that was already done

Answer 3

Dad, you need to put your hurt feelings aside and think about how this messed up relationship with her mother, and your year long absence is affecting your daughter. She is only 11, clothes and gifts don't replace you and your place in her life.

You need to find a way to be there in person. Then you can talk to her about how angry she is about this situation. Try not to focus on yourself, you're a big boy and capable of understanding this little girl is being screwed up by you and your X.

Yes, you feel bad, and rightly so. But DON'T get mad at your daughter, talk to her and find out what's going on in a calm ADULT manner. It could be she was truly exhausted and you weren't respecting that fact. However, if it is the problems you're having with her mother, don't bad mouth her mom to her and do try to be as loving and understanding as you can. She is only 11.

Good luck and Happy Birthday.

Answer 4

Why haven't you seen her in a year? Don't you have visitation? This may be why she didn't really want to talk. If you have a true interest in her feelings for you, you should work on visiting her and spending a little quality time with her. Expensive clothes aren't enough to earn her love.

Answer 5

I'd be mad she hung up on me BUT when someone tells you that they are tired and need to go to sleep then you should call them back later when they are able to talk. Next time you talk to her just tell her (nicely) that the next time she's ready to get off the phone to let you know so that you can say a proper goodbye.

Answer 6

It doesn't sound like you spend time with her. Just buying her things is not love. Need more background info. Write her a letter telling her how you feel. I'm sorry she disrespected you.

Answer 7

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