be. How can I add a bit more spice after all of these years?
2007-01-16 15:46:58 · 9 answers · asked by marindapurple 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get back to the basics........"First date mentality."
2007-01-16 15:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Add something new to the routine, it need not be sexual, go away, find a new hobby, spend some time alone even if it at home and you dont answer the door or phone in your little love nest. After all these years you probably have more time together now without the interference of kids so that takes a bit of getting used to. Develop a quiz or find one on the net about how well you know your spouse. Asking these questions after all these years opens your eyes to just what you dont know about your partner and can even be fun as you discover where the answer came from. Communicate to your husband your needs, my bet is after all this time your life is pretty much routine and we all now the guys need a bit of a shake up every now and then. Instigate the changes you want they are not going to come knocking otherwise. Have fun and enjoy.
2007-01-16 23:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reigniting the spark is a question millions of people ask all over the world.It's funny how young people don't realize that passion does go stale after a while.....they think it never will but it does. If there is not a physical or emotional issue, man problems for instance, maybe you can take an HONEST look at your appearance and work on it. If that is not an issue search for a very relaxed, no pressure get away that you can do. Just plain time for youselves without jobs, time limits, kids and whatever else gets in the way during your day. Send flowers to him---"HI HANDSOME-- HOW ARE YOU? How about just renting a movie that makes you both laugh and relax---make popcorn and sit close on the couch---drink some wine and make out like kids at a theatre on a saturday night.You know him better than anyone--what kind of day does he have? Pressure, and stress? Get a gift certificate for a massage and then you get a make over at the same time---meet up like two people in heat ---all ready to go. Just don't force it and don't make it a requirement---just slowly start making the smooth moves---even over a period of days--when the weekend comes he might be quite itchy for some of you.....oooh la la. Good luck and may the heat with you
2007-01-17 00:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a moment by yourself, maybe write down or start a journal and remeber how things were when you were first courting and married. Think about all the romantic memories and good times you've had. Remember all the reasons why you fell in love with him. It will put you in a very nostalgic mood and will be easier for you to convey how you're feeling when the memories of romance and passion have come to life for you again. Tell him that you miss being that happy couple that you remember so fondly. It sounds like your relationship is an otherwise happy one and if you are feeling this way, chances are he is missing the passion too. It's going to take effort on both of your parts to stay connected to the reasons why you love eachother when we are surrounded by such a hectic world. My husband and I often reminisce together about all our good times every now and then, whenever we feel like we've drifted apart. We usually bring bottle of wine in a bucket of ice out to our backyard and sit around our fire pit under the night sky and talk for hours. It's our way to always keep us close emotionally and so far it's worked.
good luck to you. Remember that your marriage is what YOU make it.
2007-01-17 00:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't put the romance all on him~ surprise him with a romantic candlelit dinner for 2, wear something that will grab his attention, and have candles and soft music going in the bedroom. Take the first step and maybe he'll follow!
2007-01-16 23:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by JeffHardy4Eva 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried "date night"? Like really planning a special date. Sounds silly but it can be terribly romantic!
2007-01-16 23:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him to massage you with a body lotion.start with your feet and up the backs of your legs.
you volunteer to do him next.
dont forget the candlelight
should be interesting.
2007-01-16 23:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by dirtyoldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a book out called light his fire
and light her fire
go to your local book store and ask about these 2 books
2007-01-16 23:52:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should do a few crunches and get a thigh master and go on a diet and go running. that might help...
2007-01-16 23:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by kwon 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋