When i lost my virginity ( i prefer gave it away) it was to someone much older than i was... about 10 years, he is still one of my closest friends, my current boyfriend is 6 years older than i am but i am afraid to let him know about the only other person i have been with sexually. Is this something i should keep to myself or should i hope he is okay with it?
2007-01-16 15:42:30 · 19 answers · asked by the_sky_is_my_sanctuary 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
im younger than i think most of you think, and i know he has other partners.. how many im not sure... vice versa for him.
2007-01-16 15:59:31 · update #1
i am above age of conscent.. i waited longer than most peopel i know to give my virginity, just incase anyone here thought i was like 13 or something.
2007-01-17 07:34:27 · update #2
tell him hun dont hide things from him...i lost the one guy i loved so much in my life because i hid things from him...some of them wernt that bad or didnt matter but it still doesnt matter...you shouldnt hide anything from some you love......its 3 years later and i still regret it alot.
2007-01-16 15:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing to do is tell him. Think about it...wouldn't you want to know if someone you were with had been sexually active before? With the risk of so many diseases, plus think about how bad it would hurt if you were to get so serious and one day think about marriage. You couldn't possibly get married to someone without letting all your skeletons out of the closet. Husband and wife (or any two parters) should be BEST FRIENDS. He would be heart broken just at the fact that you weren't honest. If you come clean now, you still have a good chance. You don't have to tell him who it was with, in my personal opinion names don't have a thing to do with it. But you should be open to your man if you truly love and respect him. Also, consider how you would feel if you were dating him and thought you were the only one he had ever been with, and then find out his good friend had been involved with him prior to you and he never told you?
It's really wonderful that you are bothered by this-it proves you do care for your babe and his feelings, and that's a blessing in todays society. The next step for you is to do what's right. Best of luck~*
2007-01-16 23:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Brittany A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't ask, don't tell. If he asks, you can say that there was one other person, but I wouldn't give his name. Just tell him you don't kiss-and-tell. The name is none of his business.
If you're underage in the state where you live, you should not have sex with your boyfriend until you're the age of consent. The reason is that he can be arrested and jailed, even if you said yes to sex, because he is much older. There are a lot of guys who have done jail time because they were turned in, even though the girl said yes, because she was underage. Don't do this to him if you're not old enough!
2007-01-17 01:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are somethings that should never be revealed to anyone else. Your situation is one of those things. He has no reason to need that information, and it would probably just confuse him.
What if he had two other girls before you and decided to tell you about them? What would you do with the information? Would it help your relationship?
Humans grow by experience, but not by experience alone. Humans grow also by intuition, imagination, conversation, reading, writing, faith and helping others do the same.
Humans grow mentally and emotionally by dreaming, thinking and by social interaction, but humans need to be very careful with each other and themselves.
Humans also grow by figuring out what to share, and what not to share.
I am all for sharing, but some sharing is just plain abuse.
2007-01-17 01:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see all kinds of reasons why NOT to tell your current guy the old boyfriends name...YIKES!
I don't think he needs to know the other guy's name, it's not important, really. If he presses you for it, just reassure him it doesn't make any difference who you were with before, he's who you are with NOW, and NOW is what counts.
2007-01-16 23:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by LapisLazuli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him. Boys find it attractive when your still fresh on the market. Having sex with two people is probably low for most people your age.
2007-01-16 23:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by KT! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, it would build trust if you tell your boyfriend. well, that is if he understands and take it as you being honest with him. but if he doesn't and makes such a big deal about it or if he gets mad at you, i think he doesn't deserve you. it takes bravery to admit such thing and there's nothing he can do, it's already in the past, and all he can do is accept you.
2007-01-16 23:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by jae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious about him you need to be upfront with him about everything!! If you dont really care that much about him then i would just break it off with him then of course you have nothing to feel guilty about.
2007-01-16 23:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by Odett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him because like it or not he is going to find out eventually so it's better to tell him yourself than for him to find it out from someone else!!
2007-01-16 23:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by chitterchatter1818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest! Just tell Him, whats the harm, its better to know something like that!!
2007-01-16 23:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋