I've been thinking about leaving my boyfriend of 14 yrs for a few yrs now over a few issues. The main one is that his sister has always hated me and acted vicious towards me, because of her jealousy. It would be different if my boyfriend had stood up for me, but he didn't until I gave an ultamatum. Now she's not allowed in our house (by me) and vise versa.
And he has the GALL to say HE is the a victim b/c of it! As if I wasn't insulted constantly for 8 years by her!!!!!
Also, we don't have sex anymore (once every 3 months).
The sad thing is we used to be so in love and passionate. And we still love each other but can't agree or get along. I'm miserable and moving out.
2007-01-16 15:37:15 · 5 answers · asked by mia b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it sound like you are doing the right thing right now,but to be honest why have you left before now, she not going to change
her attttued toward you and he also has issues. you should
have been gone. you the victim to waste so much time with
him.
2007-01-16 16:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Your gonna let his sister win then huh? I'm sorry to hear that. Everyone does have a breaking point and it seems you've reached yours. It seems you needed to talk this out some time ago and the point you are now it may be too late. I urge you to talk to him. 14 years is along time to throw away over a family member. Not everyone will like you or him all the time but you must stick together. He needs to have your back at all times just like you need to have his. His sister shouldn't be banded from the home. Do you know why she has such a problem with you? You may need to sit down with her. Have him there if necessary. But think it through before throwing it all away. Who's to say the next man's mama is gonna like you and here you go again. Good luck.
2007-01-16 23:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by D Wade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not waste more than 2 - 3 yrs in a relationship without marriage.
2007-01-16 23:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the whole situation is all messed up for one he should have stood up for you i know that is his family but you are the person he was in love with
a slight difference... but anyway id move out because if he cant be man enough to stand behind u hes not man enough to be with u...
2007-01-16 23:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by steph 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET IT TOGETHER ,,,,,, AND GET AWAY!!!! LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO LIVE IN CONSTANT AGGRAVATION . NOT TO MENTION THE HEALTH ISSUES THAT ALL THIS STRESS CAN CAUSE . 8 YEARS OF THIS IS PLENTY LONG ENOUGH TO SAY YOU TRIED !!!!! TAKE CARE
2007-01-17 00:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by iambettyboop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋