I see women everyday wanting to be married. Is that the ultimate goal for women? Does marriage make women feel complete? Women who don't even have a potential mate are already saying when they want to be married. Please enlighten me on this.
2007-01-16 15:08:01 · 22 answers · asked by Victor H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's an investment in our future. We marry men, have them father our children, run up their credit cards, and then divorce them. We get 1/2 their stuff, the kids, child support and alimony.
It's all an evil ploy.
I am totally joking....sheeesh.
2007-01-16 15:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Being a woman, I will say that it troubles me to see a lot of single women feeling so desperate to marry. Society has made a point of women being married or rather that it is wrong to have a career and wait on marriage. I cannot tell how many times I have seen articles on why women are waiting longer to get married, or how difficult it is to find a good man to marry. I never hear about men having difficulties finding women to marry or how old they are before they get married.
Everybody has something to say about women being too fat, too old, too ugly, and I believe some women find self-assurance when a man asks for marriage.
When I was in college, marriage never crossed my mind. I was busy studying and having fun. When I went to graduate school I still did not want to get married. Opportunities I had plenty, but never felt that something special in any relationship. I never thought I needed a man to make me a better person or more beautiful or smarter. I made a mistake by getting married. Marriage does not bring happiness, you have to be ready for it.
Marriage is an illusion. Girls dream about the dress and the party without realizing that a few hours of bliss are followed by a lifetime of everything that is not just happiness.
2007-01-16 23:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by jade 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is true that some women want to marry as soon as possible, but many others are in no hurry to marry. Some women have the "nesting" gene and are ready to start a family at a younger age than others. Some women feel the need to be married in order to prove they are attractive and desirable in the eyes of a man. Some women marry because they want to feel secure and hope a man will protect and support them.
I have noticed that more women are opting to stay single until their 30's or 40's now. They want to pursue a career and choose to do this before committing to a family situation.
2007-01-16 23:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This all depends on the woman.... Not all women are in a hurry or so called anxious to get married but women are emotional beings usually more so then men and they need to feel complete and loved and would like a commitment and usually are open more to marriage then most men are... Men are more sexual beings and more work oriented and not as emotional.... Yes sometimes marriage does make a woman feel more complete and happy.
2007-01-17 00:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's something that we're raised with... you find your prince charming, he sweeps you off your feet, you get to wear a beautiful gown and then you live happily ever after. It's an unrealistic goal. But as a woman, the highs you get from the whole wedding process... the engagement, the ring, the parties in your honour, a beautiful gown, people listening to everything you say, make up and your groom dancing the night away with you make it all seem like a worth while dream. I felt that way during the whole wedding process... it was a great feeling....but I don't think I really understood the whole commitment I was making to my man, henceforth the reason we're seperated. I didn't love him, just loved the idea of being in love with him, and the whole big beautiful wedding/princess for a day thing...
We're complex people... lol
2007-01-16 23:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman who has been married before to a moron i might add but i am in no hurry to get married again and i believe i'm with my soul-mate. Been together for 6 years have a 2 and a half year old son with another on the way in may. This is just my opinion but i think marriage is for control freaks.
2007-01-16 23:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lambchop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I don't want to be married.
If I happen to find a guy whom I believe
is a guy I wouldn't mind spending my life
with...then we could just live together.
I don't think that anyone should get married
because how can you promise to always love
someone when you don't know what's going
to happen a few years down the road. No one
knows how they'll feel about each other later on.
So, with that said, not all women want to get married.
We are just pressured to "settle down". Just
because we aren't married doesn't mean we aren't
"settled down". People just expect you to get married.
It's like having children, everyone expects that because
you are a woman, you are supposed to have them.
I don't want either, children or marriage. It's just not
for me.
2007-01-16 23:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way, but no potential partner. I've been apart of two wedding parties last year and that just makes it worst. I think like a fantasy the actual wedding and that we are like a princess on that day. Just having someone who you love and loves you back. We also don't want to be too old with no husband, kid and house to enjoy life. Most of us are emotional and would love to have that total emotional attachement to a man from a marrige
2007-01-17 01:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women feel like people look at them diff if they are my age (30) and not married. so they feel like in order to accpeted they need to get married. I swear i get people asking me when i am going to get married or have guys ask me why i am still single at 30 and whats wrong with me. There is nothing wrong with me. I want to be married because someday i want a family. For alot of women they think getting married will solve thier problems and they wont be lonley anymore. Thats NOT the case. you have to be happy with yourself first before you can think about getting married.
2007-01-16 23:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by carriec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, from the time that we're little, we're fed this idea that we need to get married and have children. We're given dolls to play "mother" to. Our parents buy us toy kitchens, plastic dishes sets, mini hoovers, and doll accesories (stroller, carseat, bottles, etc.). Every disney movie is about a princess meeting her prince (The Little Mermaid, Aladdin, Beauty and the Beast, Cinderella, etc.) We're programmed to want to get married and have a family. Some of us make a concious decision not to go that route, but the majority of us go with what we know.
2007-01-16 23:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by rtobor84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women are raised with the expectation that they are going to be married. Look at the dolls, and toys, and dress up clothes that are geared towards girls... most of them having something to do with having a man (Barbie) or getting married.
Also, when women hit a certain age, people always start asking "when are you going to settle down?" like it's the only way you can spend your life.
2007-01-16 23:14:06 · answer #11 · answered by Missing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋