Monogomy : Is it realistic or mythology ?

Question

If so why do people go around cheating all the time ?

Answer 1

Hello,
Of course is realistic. Many men and women dedicate their lives to their other half. But circumstances values and self esteem will determinate or will make a difference depending on the case.
For example:
My wife and I have being together for one year and eight months and married for one year and two month. When we move together we used to have sex every day for about three months. One day she didn't feel like it anymore. Ever since our sexual activity decreased to about once every two or three months. We haven't have sex now for eight months. But even when our sex life isn't there, she is good and gives me all the attention affection and respect that I asked for when we decided to joint our lives.
I don't believe in cheating so I decided to talk to a couple of friends about it, just to see what was their opinion. I explained that I love her and that I don't want to cheat.
Most of the answers that I got were to basically cheat.
I decided to talk to her because I don't want to live like this for the rest of my life.
What I'm trying to say is that some people love their spouse but depending on the circumstances and values will cheat or not.
Communication is a very important factor in a relationship, as well as our actions. Some people like my wife don't understand that there are many way to sexually please your husbands/wife’s without having penetration. Those people don't even want to put them selves in their husbands/wife’s situation and try to be understanding of the other.
Every action causes a reaction.
Cheating in my opinion is not good. Why to create an extra problem for your self? Isn't enough with your life the way it is? I believe in breaking up before jumping into another relationship if you are not happy.
Best Wishes.

Answer 2

I think Monogomy is very realistic because wouldn't you want someone that is just Yours? as for why people cheat I think that those people are lost, and that they are looking for something, so they act out on sudden impulses, also a lot of times people get too comfortable inside their relationships, so they stop doing things with their SO ( significant other) and when they don't get certian things they look elsewhere. relationships take work, so does marriage....you have to work at it to keep it going. and I think so many people forget that these days, and let themselves go, or stop trying to keep the romance alive, or maybe they just grow tired of the other person.

Answer 3

Marriage for life was invented by people who were lucky to make it to age 30 without being stepped on by a dinosaur. A monogomous relationship is more work that most people want to invest (and a lot of people want to admit). It is simply easier to move on than it is to maintain what you have at home. A significant percentage of the population finds the path of least resistance.

That being said I am happily in a monogomous marriage (as far as I know) that I work my tail off to maintain. My wife is my best friend. For the last ten years that I have been lucky enough to share a marriage with her there was simply no room for another.

I think people cheat because they just aren't willing to put in the work.

Answer 4

Yes, monogamy is realistic. I don't know why people cheat, I guess because they are not ready for a real relationship. I, personally have never cheated on my husband, I don't even talk to guys on the phone.

Answer 5

monogomy is real--been married and faithful to same woman for 20 yrs----why do ppl cheat? the choose too! probably lots of reasons but...I dont think there is ever a good reason to cheat-

Answer 6

For some it is realistic, for others it's not. It's just that most of today's socioties are based on monogomy.

Answer 7

Unfortunately for some, patterns are repeated from generation to generation. Many people who cheat had little or no appropriate examples growing up of how to remain in a successful monogomous relationship.

Answer 8

In my honest opinion, I think monogamy goes against our biology. I do believe it is in our nature to stay with one mate for a short period of time during the early years of raising a child. However, I don't think biology has set us up to forever remain faithful to this one companion. I believe that in our culture we have decided that that is what we need to do, so as humans we are always fighting the urge to cheat. It is possible to stay monogamous, but requires self-discipline and and continued effort to go against our biology.

Answer 9

One person's myth could be someone else's reality and another person's reality someone else's myth. It's the way of the world.


Monogomy is realistic for some and mythology for others.

Answer 10

Of course monogamy is realistic. You hear about the bad marriages more because those people are always complaining about them. The people who are in good marriages don't have anything to complain about, and no one wants to hear them talk about how happy their marriages are all the time.