I try so hard in our relationship, I've never cheated on him, and he's cheated on me, he makes everything my fault. I try to give him everything I can, I try try try and get rewawrded with hits smacks, a broken finger, physical ingeries. what the heck, i can't leave him, so what?
2007-01-16 15:05:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to the police station and file a report, then file a restraining order, then go pack your stuff and leave... stay away from him, he is sick and you deserve better.
2007-01-16 15:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meagan....you have low self esteem.
Why would you let someone beat you up girl? That's not love. He doesn't respect you because you are trying to hard to please him. Leave Ike Turner alone before he kills you girl! You have to go within yourself and figure out why you are attracted to this twisted relationship. this dude has no respect for a woman and lord knows what else he does with other women. Nothing or NO ONE is worth degrading yourself and destroying your being over.
Your a woman, carry yourself like one and leave this dude in the gutter. Things wont ever get better. Are you afraid of being alone? You can get with someone who will treat you better than that. Once you leave you will feel sooo much better about yourself and your life. I hope you don't have children who witness these attacks. A child's mind can be devastated by watching these events. If not for yourself, you owe them that much.
2007-01-16 15:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And exactly why can't you leave him?
That is abuse, and if he continues you will wind up in the hospital or dead.
He has allot of issues that he needs to gotten under control, and out of his system. Go to the police and get the hell out of their.
Just because you love him or you have children together doesn't bind you to anything. Go to a women's shelter if you are scared. Don't let him do that to you anymore. You are probably miserable, depressed, and have bad self esteem, and this is not healthy at all.
To answer the question...any reason will do...drugs, alcoholic, bad home training, lived in an abusive household and doesn't want to be any different then his family...Believes it is OK to beat on his women...you name it.
2007-01-16 15:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by liquidblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of your relationship immediately. File a report at the police station. Go to a women's shelter. Protect yourself.
You should never have to try in a relationship. If he can't see how beautiful and wonderful you are, and how you deserve so much more, than he isn't worth it. No man, and no one, should be the cause of such pain and agony. Stand up for yourself and realize your self worth. His smacks and injuries that he gives you are not rewards. It is abuse, and you need to get out now.
Before it's too late.
2007-01-16 15:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why cant you leave him, is he holding you back physically. Are you emotionally stuck? Leave go home he will hurt you, why do you want to live like that, he doesn't love you, he has problems and you too have problems if you are not willing to leave. You need to be strong and get out of this soon. Go home to family or friends that always help, stay busy get a hobby and forget about him
2007-01-16 17:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by Smile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can leave him. You can do anything if you put your mind to it. Get out of this abusive relationship before it's too late. He cheats on you, abuses you and treats you like crap, that is certainly not a healthy relationship. Next time he may kill you and then it will be too late. He obviously does not love or respect you. Leave his sorry butt NOW, while you still can. Good luck
2007-01-16 15:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CAN leave. I just put my husband out the other day after he beat me up and drug me through the house in front of my daughter (my "crime": I didn't show him proof that I had gone to my postpartum checkup, so I "must've been cheating" on him). I have gotten a restraining order and he is no longer living in our apartment. I am staying with my mom for a few days, now. You don't have to take this. Get out now, this man can kill you.
2007-01-16 16:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by rtobor84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to leave him. It doesn't make you a sinner or any less of a woman if you walk out on a man that physically abuses you.
You deserve more than this. A woman is nothing less. You must realize your worth sister. Is there anyone you can speak to regarding this?
2007-01-16 15:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by Nats 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do you say you cant leave him??(please edit you question telling us...)
And...
My mom was with my dad for almost 20years. The whole time he beat her, and us, and attempted to kill her a few times... sometimes it would be sooo bad! I dont even know how to describe it. He shot at me, Held guns to my sister and mothers heads, beat them with the guns, and even molested me and my sister when we were younger... My mom tried to leave a couple times but it didnt help... A year and a half ago she finally left... She did leave the state, but it was worth it. Now my father doesnt bother me and my sister, im engaged with a kid and so is my sis.
Dont wait like my mother did! Get out now, even if it means leaving the state! like i said, It's worth it
Oh, but i would file charges, until you LEAVE because a woman who used to live around me did that and he ex killed her... sorry to say....
But dont do that until your ready to deal with it, and far away! If you file a restraining order, and he comes around, do not be one of those women that let him come around and threaten... call the police as soon as you see him... anyway... ask for help from family, friends, anyone... people are out there who want to help... you just have to ask
2007-01-16 15:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by Chef Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathize with you totally...you need to leave..trust me i know. Call up your family and ask them for help. If you have no family call your local women's shelter and tell them you need help. It will hurt at first trust me, cuz you're use to that way of life...but one day you will wake up and realize that was the best thing you ever did for yourself. He treats you like garbage and you're not...get out now before it's too late.
2007-01-16 15:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by Susan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋