We both love each other very much are young and are very comftable with our sexuality. We both want it so really don't see a downside to it all. Thinking about a FFM....any takers? Or anyone with experiance.
2007-01-16 14:58:22 · 13 answers · asked by michelle_3angels 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As long as you are both secure in yourself and in each other than there should be no threat to your relationship. It is recreational sex and nothing more.
Too many (and you see their answers here) don't separate love and sex. They feel that to have sex with someone you have to be in love with them, or at least on your way to being in love with them. I think it's because is justifies them doing it. They've been told all their life that premarital sex is bad, so it's a way of making it okay in their mind. Kind of "it's okay because we're in love, so it's really not bad." Of course, they just practice "serial monogamy", this is where they fall in love, knock boots for awhile, break-up, find someone new, fall in love, knock boots for awhile, and so on. Each and every time they are "in love".
So they say things like "why be married if you just want to screw around?" and "it'll create problems", "one of you will fall in love with the playmate", etc. In reality these are just their opinion based on their own feelings, and I'd bet 99% have never even come close to a threesome or moresome. So it truly is "opinion" and not "fact".
So if you are both on board with this happening, if it is both of your fantasy, than you'll have a great time.
2007-01-17 06:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem with three consenting adults have sex together if that's what they want to do. However, I have to point out that there are many potential pitfalls. Even though you have said that you are both comfortable with your sexuality are you and your wife absolutely secure in your love and commitment to each other. Bringing a third person into a relationship can put huge strain on a couples relationship if jealousy starts to creep in.
Also, you need to consider the feelings of the third person. That person may become emotionally attached to either you or to your wife. How does this person fit into your relationship with you and your wife if at all?
Anyway, this sounds like something that you really want to do. Many heterosexual men fantasize about having sex with two women. All, I can say is be open and honest with everyone involved so that expectations are set up front and hopefully no-one will be hurt.
2007-01-16 23:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by Peter M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's something one person wants, but the other doesnt, then it will end the relationship in long run.
If both of you genuinely want it (NOT just for the "sake" of pleasing the other partner) then it would be great for the relationship.
Personally, I've had partners who loved the idea of a FMF/FFM; however, unusually, I prefer to see HER with another man (MFM), and have have had trouble finding a like minded woman!
Anyhow, the upshot is there is no wrong/right combination- what ever you do sexually in the relationship ONLY works if you BOTH truly like the same "extra"..
2007-01-17 01:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to be comfortable and secure in your relationship. You have to be clear that your relationship with each other comes first and that you both go home with each other. You also should discuss the possibility that the 3rd person might be come a regular, and how would that effect your relationship. I have a FFM relationship of a number of years.
2007-01-16 23:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is for one man and one woman. When you bring others into the bedroom you opened the door for the enemy. What if he likes her more then you or vise versa? Will you leave him? Will he leave you? What about if he likes her alot and sees her on the side but without you? These are all things that can happen. I would seriously think about it before you jump into it. It has destroyed alot of marriages. I suggest getting some new toys or role play. There are alot of things to do to add spice besides bring someone into your bedroom.
2007-01-17 00:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by D Wade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general, it usually complicates marriage. And, in general, threesomes should be left in the fantasy realm. However, I have a few links on open marriage and managing jealously. Perhaps these articles will give you ideas you have not thought of before.
2007-01-16 23:12:38 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that it would complicate it as long as you two are being honest with each other about what u both want and what u will gain from this experience.. sounds like u both are into it comfortably so id say go for it.. what ever floats ur boat:)
2007-01-16 23:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by steph 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are the greatest experience in the world, after 5 years of them we still have no problems.
2007-01-19 03:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would only complicate it. That is just more drama and jelousy fights with your spouse. Also try counseling first because that will just bring more problems!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-16 23:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by jocelyn s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will help to end the marriage !
2007-01-16 23:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by kenneth h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋