My roommate and I often talk to each other about personal issues (like relationships). When I want to talk, I always make a point to ask her if she has a few minutes. When it's the other way around , I never get asked if I'm free. I could step outside my room and she would immediately start telling me about her drama and I feel obligated to listen...even if I was busy. I have tried to interrupt her before by saying, "I'm watching tv right now" but she never seems to care. Once, when I was on my phone in my room, she knocked on the door and when I told her she could come in, she "jokingly" told me to get off the phone because she wanted to talk - at which point she went on for 5 minutes while my friend was on hold. I don't mind listening or offering advice when needed, but I don't appreciate it when she doesn't respect my personal time. How should I put a stop to this?
2007-01-16 14:57:12 · 5 answers · asked by Krysta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi!,
I think on my personal front, i think if you sit down and talk to your friend she will not be around anymore to be your friend, so what i would say is whenever she wants to talk to you and you are busy, tell her you are on some work now and you will get back later, i know you have done this before, but this time get the pint across that you are at the moment busy, tell her a few times and she will get it that you too have priorities in life.
I think with time your friend will get some perspective and respect your privacy along with your friendship .
2007-01-16 15:31:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kiran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are several ways you can do this, although silly :P You can tell her that everyday, you need a quiet time for yourself. Tell her its a time where you only spend time by yourself without any interruptions. Hopefully she'll participate. Or, tell her politely but in a firm manner every time she comes when you're doing something else. Tell her," Could you give me 10 minutes?" She'll feel awkward at first, but that's how she'll get the idea. After a while, she'll get used to it. Don't entertain her before your other friend who's on the line, cos that's kinda irritating too. I know I would! Your room mate will just have to WAIT and hold, until you're available. Make it known that not everything revolves around her only, and you have a life too.
2007-01-16 15:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to your roommate and let them know that you don't appreciate how she is treating you nor acting toward your privacy....if you don't fix this now hon it will keep going on.Just let her know how you feel hon but,try not to be rude about it. I hope this will help out a little.
Good luck
2007-01-16 15:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by bambi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of them times when u have to sit down and write her a note telling her about this.
Then it will get to her head and she will change this and consider your privacy and act more mature.
2007-01-16 15:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should treat her the same way and if she doesnt like it then theres ur chance of telling her thats how she is and etc.
2007-01-16 15:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by debbie o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋