I know this guy and he sleeps with every girl he can get away with. Coworkers, sluts he meets, anyone! In the past 4 months he's cheated at least 4 times that I know of. His wife is very nice but very dumb. I feel sorry for her. He hits her when they argue and she won't leave him. He has legal custody of there daughter so I think that's why she won't leave. She can't have custody because of past drug abuse. His abuse to her has not ever been documented. She has noone to go to for help if she were to leave him and it is a bad situation. I feel she needs to leave anyway and get her life straight. Maybe somehow having someone tell her about his cheating would that work? She told me once if he ever cheated on her that would be her breaking point. So what should I do. My husband even told him to stop hitting her, they are friends. He feels bad for her too, alot of people do. I know one girl who said as long as she helped w/ bills she could stay w/ her for a little while...
2007-01-16 14:46:13 · 25 answers · asked by Chrissy #1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry for being so missleading technically they are already divorced.
2007-01-16 14:54:07 · update #1
Tell please tell I love a good heart break story.
2007-01-16 14:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What one says and what one does is usually different meaning she probably knows about the cheating. Dont go in upsetting the current unit without supports in place to pick up the mess your statement will leave behind. There are women refuges out there that she could seek advice from and various phone help lines, perhaps she does not have the mental and emotional courage to address the issue after all under the current situation she would be separated from her child. notify the child authorities about the abuse at home whilst it might not be directed at the child the child is witnessing the abuse and this is not an ideal environment for her. From the outside solutions often look easy but in reality they are a lot more complex. arm yourself with knowledge and resources and be prepared for when she decides to leave. For now the one needing the most help is the innocent child, keep calling the authorities.
2007-01-16 14:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad thing is you can tell this woman that this man cheats on her.She is not going to go anywhere.You hit the nail on the head.She is only there because that is where her daughter is at.She is not helping her daughter by staying with a man that abuses her/cheats on her.She should leave this man.Report this man's abuse to the police so that it is documented.Put herself in counseling to overcome her addiction to drugs.Then petition the court to regain custody of her daughter!!There are people that will help her.She has to be able to stand up reach out and ask for help!!I do not know .If she is willing to do that.The person I feel sorry for is the daughter because these people are not only destroying their own lives.They are destroying the life of their child.Their daughter is the innocent bystander caught in the cross fire of her parent's choices.
2007-01-16 16:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by noga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call jerry springer and he'll tell her for you then we can all watch all their lives go down the toilet since he'd leave her and take the kid which she probably doesn't want then the kid won't be happy without the mom and the dad will be messing around with even more woman and probably getting afew stds so by all means tell her ruin all their lives even more if she has bad enough problems she can't keep the kid herself she can't live on her own and moving from friend to friend isn't a happy life
2007-01-16 14:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by topgunpilot22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one deceives abuse. Be sure you have facts or proof about the cheating before telling her. sometime women won't believe you unless you can prove it. Tell someone who can help her get out of the abuse. It doesn't sound like he should be in charge a child if he abuses the child's mother. Is there a counselor at work? She deserves to know the truth. His abuse will accelerate over time. She needs to get out.
2007-01-16 14:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I would want to get involved in that situation. if you husband is friends with this jerk and you know both of them it could end up being one of those "kill the messenger" things and they would both be mad at you.
I am sure that she knows what he is doing on some level. Just be there for her a a friend, help her if she asks for help... let her know that you will help her if she ever needs it... give her a place to stay for a while. But I don't think that you should be the one to tell her... the entire thing sounds like bad news.
2007-01-16 14:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has people to support her. If she has stayed clean as far as the drug issue goes she should be able to regain custody of her child. No one should be a punching bag for any one and you should offer to represent her in legal action to get custody of her child back so she can leave a dangerous situation. If he is violent with her it is just a matter of time before he is with the child.
2007-01-16 14:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, tell her. No one deserves to go through that. She needs to leave. She needs to get her life together and start healing. And if it's PAST drug abuse and she's been clean for a while, she'll be able to get custody as well. She needs to go to the police, get a domestic violence petition against him and in doing so she might even be able to get their little girl. Then she can go stay with the girl you were talking about. I've been through this. I know what she's going through. It's hard to cross that bridge, but LIFE is waiting on the other side. PLEASE!!! Tell her!
2007-01-16 14:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by tooterbutton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her in a way that she can't deny it, but she also needs a support system to deal with it as well. Otherwise, she will continue and accept the abuse.
She deserves to be disease-free.....in both senses of the word.
He must not be too worried about her finding out if others know.
2007-01-16 14:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by Tracey LA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your relationship with the wife? Are you good friends? Do you care deeply for her? I would guess that she already knows he's cheating. She has some issues. It's possible that she's hanging on because she can't provide for herself and she is accepting this behavior because it's the best she (thinks) she can get.
Is it your business to get involved? If not, then don't.
2007-01-16 14:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a few separate issues going on here-----1st the abuse will not stop because men generally will not stop abusing their wives until the police are brought into the situation---2nd--his infidelity---this guy is obviously a piece of crap------your friend needs to take some action---before its too late----be a friend and help and support her to make the right decision---but once she does you need to be there for her---blessings
2007-01-16 14:57:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋