She Shot Herself In The Head Because She Thought No One Cared About Her..Does Anyone Know Anything I Can Do To Help Me And My Friends Get Through This..Please..Anything..IM Me If You Please.. (Amanda_Shipman40)..Please..She Was My Best Friend..I Didn't Even Get A Chance To Say Good-Bye..
2007-01-16 14:42:17 · 22 answers · asked by amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
when my best friend died, i didnt know what to do, she was raped and left to die in a bad way, it keeps on my mind all the time, she got dressed up and went out cause she had a fight with her parents , this is a very hard thing to cope with, but is harder for her family and that pain will never go, even when you never get the chance to say what you wanted to, thats why, with my friends of today, i tell them everything and make sure they are loved, and that when they feel they need a friend, they can come to me nomatter what, and you can do this with your other friends , but as for the 1 u have lost, im sorry for your pain, till this day i think bad things of what happened to her, and wish i was their for her all that day, to let her know that she is not alone, but i cant change the pass. and i really dont no what to say that could help, as we all deal with things in a different way, im sorry
2007-01-16 14:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by louise 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have my regrets. I wish I could come there and just sit next to you and your friends, and say nothing, but just feed you and do all your work for the next week, because it can be hard to think when someone you love is gone.
Here are some words I hope will help:
(1) Do not blame yourselves. It can be way too hard to see what is going on in a case like your friend's case, until it is too late. Pray, ask God to forgive you for anything you may have missed, and then leave the guilt with Him. He is big enough to carry the weight; you are not.
(2) It is the Lord's authority to open the grave, or to shut it. Many people attempt suicide and fail. If God allowed her attempt to succeed, then He has a purpose in it. It feels terrible. But, again, do not blame yourself! Remember, it says, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and rely not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path". If it were me, I would not have any idea how to not take responsibility for this, and I would hurt very badly. Lean on Him. I and some others who read this will pray He gives you peace.
(3) It's OK to grieve for a time, and remember. Talking it out can help. Your friends and you can help each other.
(4) Grief counselors can be great, but do not just say you agree with anything to feel better- really express your feelings. Then, if you feel better, it will be a permanent help. If you bury the hurt to please anyone else, you may still hurt.
(5) Remember, death is too great for a person to fathom. Your friend may be in heaven- that is for God to judge and not for us- but I know that He will make it be all right, and He will be fair and just and merciful, and He can bring something good out of a nightmare. Do not judge too hastily: remember that even if you cannot see it at the moment, He can bring good out of things that we do not see good in, at all. At the end, when He returns, it is written that He will wipe every tear from our eyes, and there will be no more crying or sadness or pain.
2007-01-16 16:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Asking&Receiving 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm really sorry that you had to endure that.
I know it's hard, and grieving will take some time. The best thing you can do is talk about her with someone. Whether it's professional grief counseling or your friends and family. Celebrate her life. Don't dwell on her death. Remember the good times and the bad, too.
Perhaps in a tragedy like this there is a lesson. Listen to the people around you. Do your best to ensure that others around you feel that someone cares for them.
2007-01-16 16:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by RainCity17 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my gosh, Honey, I'm so sorry.
Stay close to your friends, keep her alive in your thoughts, and lean on each other. Turn to schoolteachers, counselors, and your parents for help. Sometimes just talking can make you feel better.
Only time can soften the intensity of pain you're feeling right now.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
2007-01-16 15:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
suicide is a scary thing. the thought that a person you love would willingly remove themselves from this world is overwhelmingly frightening. stay close to your friends, you all need each others support. make a weekly (or monthly) ritual of visiting her grave with all your friends. bring candles or flowers and place them at her grave. write letters to her and leave them there too. gather all your photos with her in them and make a collage to keep with you forever. and most importantly remember shes in heaven watching over you. and as long as you no that, she'll be with you forever
2007-01-16 16:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for your lose....the best thing you and friends can do right now is be there for each other...remember her and how she was...i know you all will get through this it just takes time. Once again im sorry.
2007-01-16 14:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by krmzjt21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that and I think that you and your friends should stick together and help each other out when needed and if you need some1 else to talk to you oculd go to a counsellor
2007-01-16 15:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some grief counseling. It will help some. A few years ago my very good friend died of cancer. It is very hard no matter how they die, but suicide is very hard to handle so you need some help to cope with the trauma. May God give you comfort.
2007-01-16 14:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by ruthie 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
just think about how she`s in a better place,ya know? i`m so sorry.she`s in a better place,and she`s looking down on everyone,wishing they wouldn`t cry for her.she`s happy now,and she`s where she needs to be.think about all the good memories you had with her.she will have plenty more awesome memories now that she`s in a better place- not facing bad troubles in life.she`s living in paradise now.
♥
in loving memory
2007-01-16 14:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. I can't imagine losing a friend so suddenly. It must be hard for you and your friends. I hope you guys will be ok. No matter what, I'm sure she's in a better place now, without sufferings.
2007-01-16 14:57:07 · answer #10 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋