Are you glad you had an affair?

Answer 1

This is really not a good idea. If you are looking to make things better in a bad marriage, this won't do the trick.

You see, people will find some way to justify their actions, indeed, even their feelings. If you think you find fault now with your spouse, just wait until you either have an affair or start to seriously entertain the idea. We humans have a way of coming up with enough evidence to support the conclusions we've already come to.

You really have to ask yourself if you're the type who does this sort of thing. It is not likely to make you feel good about yourself and it is highly likely to make you find a lot more fault with your spouse than you feel already.

And when you become emotionally dependent on somebody other than your spouse, you really don't have anything left to work with. I see it as the final nails in the coffin for a marriage if the marriage is already in trouble.

There is also the issue of domestic violence. And both men and women have to consider this. Women become violent these days too. So you need to consider whether or not your husband might become violent and then there is that other component and that is what if you fiddle around with a married man and his wife finds out and becomes violent?

Then there is the risk of STD's and the risk of becoming strongly emotionally attached to somebody else and having to break it off. And generally speaking, relationships that start out as clandestine, covert, "other woman" types, really don't work out very well in the long run.

There is just too much possibility that you're going to get hurt. This is not the answer. There is a better way and it will come to you. Be patient.

Good luck!

Answer 2

No one should be glad that they had an affair. You might be happy at the time. In the end was it worth it.

Answer 3

Yes.

Yes, because it saved our marriage.

My husband was being verbally abusive toward me for years because of his fear of me being attractive. His insecurity pushed me away.

His behavior almost ended our marriage so I had an affair that didn't last long to experience the appreciation I wasn't getting at home, which was simple kindness.

I told my husband what I did and he stopped verbally abusing me, and 8 years after my short affair, we are still together and if I feel a need to stray again, I will divorce him.

However, we are not going to divorce and I'm not doing it again.

Answer 4

I wouldn't know. I never have had or will have an affair. But I can tell you I made my ex sorry he did.

Answer 5

Nope not at all and i regret it to this day also my husband is not happy for what he did earlier in our marriage either.... All an affair does is cause heartache and pain and alot of distruction in relationships and marriages.... Trust me it is never worth it!

Answer 6

All I can honestly tell you is that my ex-husband isn't glad he had an affair...

Answer 7

NO!, I knew I would hurt my wife but I had no idea to which extent. I am sorry I ever broke the trust I had of a good woman. She has forgiven me, but what I did will always weigh in the back of my mind.

Answer 8

I personally am glad I did it got me out of an emotionally and physically abusive relationship, by showing me I was wanted and beautiful still inside and out........Don't ask my ex though.....

Answer 9

Why would anyone be glad that they messed up someone else's life by cheating and lying?

Answer 10

I dont think my ex husband is....the girl he cheated on me with left him for a better man and I have been going after him for 4 years for back childsupport...so I would say no he is not happy_