how do u tel someone?

Question

how do u tell ur stepson that he needs to get his act togeather as n pick up after him self and his girlfreind and his friends

Answer 1

Step son or not. Its your house your rules. If he can't follow them no more friends over. I know its hard to negotiate with a step child. You feel like you have limited say on what goes on with him. However, you have alot of say what goes on in your house. Set rules for the house. Don't say to him I WANT YOU TO DO THIS. Say these are the house rules. Your husband has to stand behind you 100 percent when they are set. Say, these are the house rules your father and I have set. If you don't want to abide by them, no more friends are allowed to come over. The key here is to have your husband stand behind you with this decision. The step son may abide the rules better if his dad is involved and shows respect to you by standing by them to. If the dad just lets his son get away with anything out of pity that the child came from a divorced family. Then, you need to deal with your husband to.

Answer 2

I have the same problem with my teenagers, It's what they do today they are all (most) really lazy, all they care about is the same **** the computer, the xbox, he won't even clean himself let alone pick up his room. It's all from being spoiled for one and once you buy them the games there hooked. Sometimes I feel bad for him because He will literally drain himself playing his xbox. What I've done is take away computer time and filled it in with SMALL chores and good behavior. then if he keeps his room clean and respects me, and does his homework for a week he is allowed back on the computer, then you go day by day, by the way he is also my STEPSON, it was my choice it's up to me to teach.....

Answer 3

Omg whos tha man in the house u or that stepson!! Put ur foot down and tell him straight out! ..Discipline. Dont let him walk all over u. If the mom gets mad than tell her straight too, "If u dont want to discipline him than i will"
My step father was so strict with my brothers sisters and i and i didnt like him at first because we couldnt get away with anything but now that im older i have learned to respect and learned to take care of my things and i learned alot from him by just him disciplining us and now i thank him for it and i love him to death as my own father..but yeah dont let him walk all over u.

Answer 4

well sounds like your stepson is at least of teenage years ---so that be the case--I suggest you take off the skirt and tell the little pig to clean up his crap or else! youre not the maid-----make sure you have some consequences should he decide to challenge you.---like his friends cannot come over till he begins taking responsibility for himself.

Answer 5

I am a ex army Sgt. I had a young soldier under me who was a pig. So I told him if he wanted to act like a pig I would treat him like one. So I stuck him outside in a tent. In the middle of winter. He got his act together after three nights of 20 degree weather. I don't suggest going that far. But Here are some Ideas from a
e-mail I recieved from my gram.
DON'T MESS WITH
>MOM
> >
> > My son came home from school one day,
> > with a smirk upon his face.
> > He decided he was smart enough,
> > to put me in my place.
> >
> > "Guess what I learned in Civics Two,
> > that's taught by Mr. Wright?
> > It's all about the laws today,
> > The 'Children's Bill of Rights.'
> >
> > It says I need not clean my room,
> > don't have to cut my hair.
> > No one can tell me what to think,
> > or speak, or what to wear.
> >
> > I have freedom from religion,
> > and regardless what you say,
> > I don't have to bow my head,
> > and I sure don't have to pray.
> >
> > I can wear earrings if I
>want,
> > and pierce my tongue & nose.
> > I can read & watch just what I like,
> > get tattoos from head to toes.
> >
> > And if you ever spank me,
> > I'll charge you with a crime.
> > I'll back up all my charges,
> > with the marks on my behind.
> >
> > Don't you ever touch me,
> > my body's only for my use,
> > not for your hugs and kisses,
> > that's just more child abuse.
> >
> > Don't preach about your morals,
> > like your Mama did to you.
> > That's nothing more than mind control,
> > And it's illegal too!
> >
> > Mom, I have these children's rights,
> > so you can't influence
>me,
> > or I'll call Children's Services Division,
> > better known as C.S.D."
> >
> > Of course my first instinct was
> > to toss him out the door.
> > But the chance to teach him a lesson
> > made me think a little more.
> >
> > I mulled it over carefully,
> > I couldn't let this go.
> > A smile crept upon my face,
> > he's messing with a pro.
> >
> > Next day I took him shopping at the
> > local Goodwill Store. I told him,
> > "Pick out all you want,
> > there's shirts & pants galore.
> >
> > I've called and checked with C.S.D.
> > who said they didn't care
> > if I bought you K-Mart
>shoes
> > instead of those Nike Airs.
> >
> > I've cancelled that appointment
> > to take your driver's test.
> > The C.S.D. is unconcerned
> > so I'll decide what's best."
> >
> > I said "No time to stop and eat,
> > or pick up stuff to munch.
> > And tomorrow you can start
> > to learn to make your own sack lunch.
> >
> > Just save the raging appetite,
> > and wait till dinner time.
> > We're having liver and onions,
> > a favorite dish of mine."
> >
> > He asked "Can I please rent a movie,
> > to watch on my VCR?"
> > "Sorry, but I sold your TV,
> > for new tires on my car.
> >
> >
>I also rented out your room,
> > you'll take the couch instead.
> > The C.S.D. requires just a roof
> > over your head.
> >
> > Your clothing won't be trendy now,
> > I'll choose what we eat.
> > That allowance that you used to get,
> > will buy me something neat.
> >
> > I'm selling off your jet ski,
> > dirt-bike & roller blades.
> > Check out the 'Parents Bill of Rights',
> > It's in effect today!
> >
> > Hey hot shot, are you crying,
> > Why are you on your knees?
> > Are you asking God to help you out,
> > instead of C.S.D..?"
> >
> > Send to all people that have teenagers or have already
> >raised
>teenagers,
> > or have children who will soon be teenagers or those who
> >will be parents
> > someday OR ANYONE WHO'D JUST GET A LAUGH ...I love this
> >one!!

Answer 6

Sit down with him and talk to him in a nonconfrontational way. Explain that you are all family and that everyone needs to pitch in for the house to stay tidy. That he may have his friends over as long as they tidy up and when they don't then there will be a week when they cannot come over.

Answer 7

Stop allowing his friends and g/f over to YOUR house. If he wants company he should earn it. Or make him pay rent. And charge him for having to clean up after him and his friends.

Answer 8

"_____, pick your crap up off the floor, or it's going outside!"

how old is he? if he is a teen, tell him unless he's responsible enough to pick his stuff up, then his friends can't come over. if he's an adult, tell him to move out.

Answer 9

you just flat out say. Look you have to clean up after yourself. I aint your maid

Answer 10

Try this "(INSERT NAME HERE), get your act together, and while you are at it, pick up after yourself and your friends"