Recently, I went in my husband's cellphone on a hunch without his knowledge because he was acting weird to me lately. On his main screen I was startled by a picture of a girl spread eagle on a sofa butt naked. Of course I searched his phone and there were more pictures of nude woman. I was upset and I accused him of cheating. So, I got the darnedest idea to have him put me in his phone nude and he took the pictures but, then he erased them immediately. I asked him why didn't he keep my pictures in his phone and he said because I am his wife. I honestly do not know if the pictures on the phone are from porn sites or real women. I am upset because I think he doesn't think I look good enough to be on his phone. Help me because if I am wrong I would like to appologize to him. What do anyone else think?
2007-01-16 14:16:21 · 22 answers · asked by VON 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not that your not good enough, he just doesn't want other people seeing his wife naked. What if someone else saw.
I think the big question is WHY do you need porn on your phone?? That seems like a bit of an over-addiction.
2007-01-16 14:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by CEP 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your wrong. It is a valid concern that you have, and as a wife I think you are allowed to look at his phone and be able to ask those kinds of questions of him.
I understand how you feel kind of, because I found out my guy of 6 years watches a lot of porn and it makes me upset and feel badly about myself, or like I'm not good enough. With time you will be less angry and find ways to accept it, but it will probably never stop nagging at you in your head, and only you can decide if that's worth putting up with or not.
As far as the questions of cheating and whether or not those are real women- that's a whole other ballgame. Is there other problems in your marriage? Men that behave normally, get along with their wives, and get regular sex USUALLY don't cheat, at least not more than a one-night stand or whatever. Take an honest look at your relationship and see what each of you is doing wrong to cause the breakdowns in communication, trust, etc. If your hubby is cheating, ask yourself why? Will your hubby go to marriage counseling? Its worth looking into, and may really help to have a trained professional, and objective outsider, help you two talk things out. The women are PROBABLY porn...is there a lot of different girls? Do the locations look "set up"? Are the girls perfect looking- big boobs, curves in all the right places, beautiful faces, etc.? If your answers are yes, you're probably looking at porn. A good way to tell if he's cheating is look at his cell phone record. When you get the bill, examine his calls. See if there's numbers you don't recognize, long calls, late night calls, etc. Keep a journal of times he is missing in action or out late and then check the phone record of that date. You can piece together information that way...that's how my best friend caught her husband cheating.
Best of luck to you...hang in there.
2007-01-16 22:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by neverneverland 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apologize for what did you do something wrong. What exactly are you mad at,is it the fact that he didn't keep your picture-in his phone or that he has pictures of other women?That man is your husband so why would he have pictures of other women.How can he say he loves you and turn around and do something so despicable as to look at nude pictures of other women.I'm sorry but I just don't get it .And as for you men out there who is taking his side well shame on all of you.I am so disappointed in men.I know most of you men out there were brought up better then the way you treat your wives.Please don't take it wrong I'm only speaking of certain men and they no who they are.
2007-01-17 02:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be worried about him not keeping your nude picture on his phone? You should be concerned with the fact that he has a picture of another nude woman on his phone. Would you seriously expect an apology from him if you had nude pictures of men on your phone. Wake up and smell the coffee girlfriend!
2007-01-17 11:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by ryanisonthescene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would smash the phone over his head, and then jam it up his a s s. You just caught him cheating, really open your eyes. He cheated on you. If it seems like a home taken picture, then obviously he took it, if its in his pictures it has times and dates on them. Get a lawyer and leave him, for him to have the cooth to act like he's inocent is even worst. You should be upset cause he's sleeping with other people, and not because he won't put you on his phone.
2007-01-16 23:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A womers gut feeling I think is always right. I think I'm bad because my ex and I had the same phones and while he was at work. I read the whole book. I knew how to go into his acct. w/ out him knowing about it. lock numbers i didn't know. and forward all "odd" #s to my cell. I soon found out he was cheating. Remember everything has a paper trail. He even went to the point of putting chicks #'s under like his friends house #. knowing they only had cells i would block my # and call them to see who they were. and then ask who r they and all that. its not all about how u look. some men just don't know how to control themself. just invest the time and look in deeper before u jump the gun. because maybe it is nothing to it. but let him know ur not happy w/ the pics and ask for them to be removed.
2007-01-16 22:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by kelly p 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has no reason to keep nude photos in his mobile. After all he is a married man. Men do browse the net and look at nude photos but do not download into the mobile.
I suspect that he is cheating you and taking photos of the women he is sleeping with, be careful.
You do not owe him any apology, he is just wrong in what he is doing. Period.
Good Luck
2007-01-16 22:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey von,
I have nudes on my phone and I am not having an and affair. My wife suggested the same thing and I had the same answer It's is not that your not good enough but like I and he said your my wife. And while I really cant explain it, we just cant do it. It's just wrong, I mean look my wife is hot and still I just refuse.
2007-01-16 23:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by SUPERSTAR X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important issue to me would be if the pictures on the cell phone are women he may know. If that's the case, it's a big red flag. I wouldn't want my husband to have any pictures of naked women - period. But htat's just me. I wouldn't want him to have mine on his phone either..but that's just me... To answer another question about his keeping your picture, I'd say men want a "fantasy" and you're more of a reality... not necessarily in a bad way.
2007-01-16 22:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, why would you want to be nude on anybody's phone. You are his wife and he loves and honors you and he probably feels that it would be disrespectful for his wife of all people to be on his phone like that. What if someone you both know needs to borrow his phone and they happen to see, it would put all involved in a awkward situation. What man doesn't fantasize about other women they know they can't have? Be honest with yourself, there have been men you have seen and thought about keeping your own picture or two. Men are boys, so let them have their toys. 9 times out of 10 he is not having an affair. Try and have a serious conversation with him about this and let him know you feel insecure, afterwards you will know where both his heads are.
2007-01-16 22:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by notnew2U 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋