I like my personal trainer and he is really nice and the other day he said i miss training you. He asked if i wanted to train with him for the next 2 months because after that he is moving to the uk for 2 years. I messaged him that night saying ' It's too bad you are leaving in 2 months because i really like you! you are a good personal trainer and i will miss you training me.' He never replied and now I am nervous to train with him because I am afraid he doesn't like me the way that i like him. What should i do?
2007-01-16 14:14:17 · 12 answers · asked by Danielle C 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You have two options.....Ask him about it directly and tell him again that you have feelings and how does he feel.... OR you could just reference that by 'liked' you meant as a trainer,nice guy, friend. A extra option is that you can forget all about the message and go on training with him as usual. Maybe you should let him make the next move. Who knows he may feel the same but his moving situation may put him in a difficult position. Good luck
2007-01-16 14:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't respond, most probably, is that he just likes you as his student or friend. Most people will choose to keep quiet or run away from problems, so he might be doing the same thing.
Don't continue to msg him nor say anything about your feelings anymore. Don't even try to tell him that you are sorry. Also, don't try to tell him that you are just expressing your thought. The best solution is, don't talk about it anymore. Or else he might feel embarrassing to face you. If you keep on pestering him with the question, he will even find it irritating.
If your trainer is interested in you, he will definitely take some action sooner or later. Besides, he's leaving in 2 months. 2 YEARS is a loooonnng time.
In order to keep him as your friend, I suggest that you continue to be his student for the next 2 months. Talk as normal, & don't try to overdo anything to get his attention nor try to favour him. Try not to get into too much hope, in case you get disappointed in certain answers. Sometimes, Keeping quiet can get you the best answer, especially to this kind of situation.
Anyway, Good Luck to you! Be Happy always!
2007-01-16 14:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by wind_liao 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your message to Him was a statement, not a question. He did not have to reply to Your message. Had You asked Him a direct question then common courtesy would suggest that a reply was in order. Ask Him if there is any time in His schedule for a training session and then make an appointment and this time try talking to Him.
2007-01-16 14:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One possibility is that he never received your message. Assuming he did, he could have responded with a thank you at least. I think you should move on with your life. There may be other people out there who are more reciprocating when it comes to showing affection. Just be careful in the future. Good luck!
2007-01-16 14:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Albert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report what happened to the police so that there is a record of what happened in case he turns violent again. Then get counselling. You are in a bad place at the moment and need help to resolve this situation without drink, drugs and violence.
2016-03-29 00:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be embarrassed as your message really could be taken as just being friendly and complimentary towards his training style. Just because he didn't message you back could mean that he found it complimentary and left it at that or maybe he didn't even receive the message. When you see him again just act like nothing is different and be casual and everything will just blow over.
2007-01-16 14:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you need not worry so much because for me your text sounds more like liking a friend or a trainer and they way he trained you...just act like usual during the training...
2007-01-16 14:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get it over, .... he's leaving!
Is it possible he just never got the message ... or maybe he's already thinking ahead to what awaits him in the UK.
2007-01-16 14:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have taken it as a friend kinda way not an i love you kind of way.
Good luck!!
2007-01-16 14:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what you have to do is try confronting him about it and after that if he still doesn't respond just leave it alone.
2007-01-16 14:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by Alina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋