Need some advise about my dad's dating...?

Question

My dad (who is free to date whomever he chooses) recently started dating a trashy bar whore who has 5 kids, and leaves them who knows where to go to the bar. My dad is a respectable buisnessman in his mid 40's. He recently broke up with a woman who was super nice, but he said she was too clingy. I understand if that isn't what he wasnt, cuz he's been divorced from my mom for over 10 years.

He has only introduced this woman to my 2 younger brothers, who are supposed to keep her a secret. (they dont like her) I'm assuming cuz he's ashamed/embarassed.

He goes to the bar where my sister in law is a bartender, and she told me about all of this.

I dont have the right to tell my dad who to date. But do you think it would be wrong to let him know of my disappointment in his choice of women?

I'm 26, and I know i have absolutely no say in his love life. But I want him to know I'm disappointed. He is attractive and successful...he can do way better.

Answer 1

I guess the question here is WHY is your sister-in-law telling you bad things about her. Is it to hurt your dad? I think if he's happy, let him be happy. Don't be disappointed in him, be happy for him, you don't have to like her, but you love your dad. Be supportive!!

Answer 2

Hell ye, go ahead and tell him. I even threatened my uncle with physical harm if he continued seeing a well known neighbourhood sl*t, you know why.. every time I step in club or a restaurant or a public place they would point fingers and say, there is the nephew of that guy who is whipped over that w*ore. That bad reputation he will get will rub onto you and you wont like it. You are an adult, tel him straight up you are disappointed and hurt. Ask him if he is havig problems finding a good woman and you can help him out, at your age I know you are friends with lots of wmoen that suit him, or friends of friends. he is your father and YES sweetheart, you have a say in who he dates coz if he catches a disease he becomes your responsibility. I am notorious amoung my friends and relatives for breaking up relationships that are a shame. My father divorced with my mother and he had that habit and I threatened to tell his boss and embarass him in public. Firstly tell him nicely, if he does not listen use a more forcefull strategy, you know your situation. I believe some people need other peoples help on these, thought they may not know it. Are you going to look yourself in the mirror if you let your father self distruct ?