I'm just sick with anger at what this guy is doing to me! First off, he broke up with me over one year ago, and slept with his best friend (now they are dating - did I mention that his best friend is male?). Out of the goodness of my heart, I agreed to let my ex live in my condo in Alaska while I moved to Alabama and got on with my life. He agreed to pay the mortgage and condo dues as monthly rent. Now, one year later. I'm working on selling the condo, something he is in total agreement with. When my real estate agent looked at the condo, she told me it's completely trashed. I'm going to have to sell it for thousands less than it's worth because of that. Now, I just found out that he hasn't paid condo dues in over a a year (and lied to my face when I asked about it a few months back)! I now owe over $2,000 which is going to come out of the profits of the condo. Does any one else have ex husbands like this? Please tell me I'm not the only one!
2007-01-16 14:03:28 · 11 answers · asked by rita_alabama 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To dragonfir...
How is being kind in any way being shallow? I think a certain person does not know word definitions...
2007-01-16 14:14:46 · update #1
Sounds like you let your heart rule your head and now you will be paying for it. My guess to is there is no lease agreement for you to fall back on for legal means of gaining monies owed. It is sad that people especially ones you have loved and been intimate with can treat you in such a manner even after separation as by you offering him accommodation indicates that this marriage ended amicably. What a slap in the face not only with the condo but also his sexuality. The one good thing I found in your statement was that at least the condo will sell for a profit meaning the loss of $2000 will come from the sale and not directly your profit. There is not much you can do to change what has been done. Put it down to a bad investment we all make them and learn for future investments. Toughen up a bit you sound like one of those lovely kind hearted people that get taken advantage of even by your nearest and dearest. Future agreements of sort need legally binding agreements, if people dont like it bad luck, if you are not going to protect yourself then who will. Seek help for the anger to be able to work through it. Put the past in the past and move on. Once he moves and the sale has gone thru then that door is closed. Just move through the next door wiser and with eyes open. Good luck
2007-01-16 14:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This guy has obviously no respect or care for you at all.....don't feel bad about pursuing whatever repercussions you are able to in the divorce.
You got royally screwed and were a lot nicer than 99% of most women would be considering their husband is not only cheating on them, but also gay!
2007-01-16 14:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Blue Eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, he does not have got to will let you have the children. Truthfully, do the children realize the uncle on a well stage (which means has he performed with them, babysat them and browse them goodnight experiences) and do the children fairly care? There shall be different possibilities for them to glue. Don't blow this out of share - it'll simplest finish badly. Especially for those who do anything fairly dull akin to preserving the youngsters from him - that lands you in contempt and you are f*ing up your kid's heads. *
2016-09-07 22:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by delsignore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I also had a bad experience with an ex, but, Dr. Phil said it best, "the person you marry is not the person that you divorce." The man that you married would have never done something like that to you, but, now, he's a stranger.
2007-01-16 14:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by C. J. 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me you were too nice and let him walk all over you. Happened to me and cost me $3500 in lawyer and court fees to put him in his place. Hopefully you can get your money out of him.. do whatever it takes and never let it happen again. Exs are selfish and will use you however they can if you try to be nice. Learn from this for future references.
2007-01-16 14:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by Tink 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might be the only one with an ex thats dating a guy who you let use your condo and he trashed it leaving you with a 2k bill.
yep yur the only one.
your new name is "door mat"
best advise is to make an example of him.
why am i being so harsh?
cause if you can get pissed at me for telling you like this the way it is then maybe just maybe you'll have the guts to take him thru
the wringer.
however just incase your "love" for him overrides this advice
then you only have yourself to blame.
2007-01-16 14:17:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
so basically your were foolsih and did not have your eyes fully open
at waht part of the pending divorce didn't you realize divorce is NEVER friendly but a bitter fight for money and that backstabbing is common as the divorce draws near...
chalk this one up toward a learning experiancer and maybe you take of those rose color glasses and be more realistic when looking for a man and no be so shallow
2007-01-16 14:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
ex's are all the same, man or woman, all seem to be vindictive esp when they are the one to walk out, doesnt make any sense
2007-01-16 14:24:44 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doll, all i can say is, ur not the onl one.
2007-01-16 14:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by Ja S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, Not married
2007-01-16 14:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋