But i don't want to be labeled as like gay or bisexual, really. i'm not ready for like having something else 2 deal with.should i just be with guys only until i'm ready 2 come out like maybe when i'm in college or what?
2007-01-16 13:50:05 · 17 answers · asked by Megan. 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If it doesn't feel right to be with a guy - like if you have no sexual or romantic interest in him - it can be harmful to you to get involved. Honestly. If you're not ready for being labeled as bi or gay, you're not ready to deal with the psychological effects of being with a gender that your mind, and your body, don't want to be with.
If you are really serious about not coming out, it's safer for you to not get involved with anyone, however lonely you might seem, than to get involved with someone you are "cheating" by not being yourself.
2007-01-16 14:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by trailangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like being with guys? If so I guess it is alright to just go with the program--I know it is a lot easier in many ways.
But if what you really want is to be with girls--don't ruin this period of your life. Especially don't do it if you are not really all that thrilled with guys--that is a double negative expierience (and most likely means you are lesbian-oriented).
I don't know how difficult your particular situation is. But with me it turned out to be pretty easy (and I do know that with a lot of people a number of serious problems and issues develope)--my Dad was acutally glad there were not all that many guys hanging around trying to get in my pants--later on Mom cued him in:)
2007-01-16 22:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well once u find a girlfriend just tell her u dont want anybody knowing because you arent ready to come out yet and she should understand and once you have a girlfriend it will be a lot easier to come out it might take a while but it will all work out i promise ive had a girlfriend for almost a year and i do have to say i am out and proud my mom even knows im bisexual and yes it was akward at first to tell people but y hide who you are?
2007-01-16 22:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by xASHx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself, you're not ready. Being with another girl is not only something to deal with, but then you also have the pressure of the relationship.
I say you should wait until you have something stable. If you really can't wait then I guess do it in secret.
2007-01-16 22:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep it to yourself until you are ready to deal with it. No one can force you to come out of the closet. You will when you are ready.
2007-01-16 21:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by Alias400 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you aren't ready for that kind of relationship, and that's for certain, because you've established that. And that's totally okay. But keep in mind that experimentation might be a good idea, and it also might clear up any undecided preferences.
2007-01-16 22:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by cali haze 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
relax and seek BLISS, not just happiness. Bliss is worth learning about and waiting for. It's evidence of an understanding of the world and a committment to deepest yourself.
2007-01-16 22:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by laportama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then make up your mind. Your going to be labeled whether u want to be or not
2007-01-16 22:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by Brad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you attracted to just guys, just girls or both? If you're not attracted to guys, why go out with them "until you're ready 2 come out"? why pretend to be someone you're not. if you are attracted to both, then you would be bi. you are the one who knows who you are truly attracted to.
you say you don't want to be labeled, and you don't have to "come out" until you are ready. just don't lie to yourself!
2007-01-16 22:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey exact same thing here, i wanna girlfriend also but i dont like labels bi or lez, so not everyone needs to know your orientation, only the people you wanna tell, just live life, go with the flow
2007-01-16 22:12:22 · answer #10 · answered by Kendra 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋