did I do the right thing, I know I am doing the right thing by them and our arabic culture, but my ILS are the guest, I had experience before with them, I hate when they open my bedroom just to pray.
I don't like they are controlling, my father in law frowns in my face and my mother in law doesn't give me a hand if I asked her and she just offer her help when my work in the kitchen is almost finished, my gush, she has chosen teh cover for my leather sopha with red colour which I didn't like and I had to accept, I've let her choose my cups and coffea mugs for the guests and my clothes sometimes, I did alot of good to her.
this time, I asked my husban to invite them culturally we have to, my husband said: " my parents will appreciate it alot" from his heart ( poor husband find his parents innocents) I almost cry now becoz they are not, they only insult me.
I am afraid of other insults, criticismes, and my husband's pressure on me will increase. I don't want to put up with control.
2007-01-16 13:21:07 · 3 answers · asked by Summer O 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You must understand, they feeling like they don't really know you, if you want them to be the way you wish them to be, go over to there place, and show them how good you are and what you can do for them and then asked them if they like to come over to your place, until they get used to you. God bless you and take your time knowing each other.
2007-01-16 13:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Alex K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they might be living with you permanently you may want to start looking for a house that has a guest house, this way they are there but not under your nose all day. I am sure it is hard to have additional people in the house at any time and you are being nice to invite the, but you can also tell your husband to tell them , this is our house and you need to show respect to me and my wife, we love to have you here, so lets make this a nice time for us to be together. Good Luck..........
2007-01-16 13:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they need to respect u more. since its in your culture to invite the in laws. i suggest u lock your bedroom door, do not let your mil pick out your clothes, store your dinnerwear that she picked out away and than buy new ones that u like, and finally buy a sofa u like.
2007-01-16 13:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋