should I take her back?

Question

My wife of 6 years whom i have been separated from for about 6 mths due to her decision ref my last questions.
has decided that she would like to try to work things out and start to work on us.
the thing is it is only since i have stated that i may have feelings for another lady that she has reacted and she also told me she has slept with another man.
should i take her back or work on the relationship and does it mean anything that she had a one night stand while we were separated, BTW i have not slept with anyone.

Answer 1

well i think the reason she wants to try now that she knows you are seeing someone means that she really does love you and doesnt want to lose you and maybe that one night stand made her beleive that even more so why not give it another try and maybe it will work out this time at least you can say that you tried i hope you do and i hope that everything works out for you
good luck

Answer 2

I think if you are even questionning whether or not you should or shouldn't says that you need to atleast explore it. It is your choice as to what it means about her one night stand. It can mean something to you or it doesn't. What other people think really doesn't matter. It is your life. You need to take a stand one way or another and move your life forward. It sounds like you've been in limbo for a while now. If it makes you feel better to say you tried then try. If you have feelings for someone else, follow that path. Just do something.

Answer 3

I have had a very similar experience recently in my marriage. If you love each other there is always hope. I would try to work things out maybe by just 'dating' not living together for a while. In the mean time I would recommend couples counseling. There will definitely be some trust issues there. Be prepared to work hard on both sides to make it work.

Answer 4

Nah. The reasons why you split are still there. And a very wise man once told me "The only thing good reheated is stuffed cabbage." Call it quits, and get on with your life, sweetie. It really is too damaged to pick up and start over, particularly since she had slept with another guy --- you'd have a tuff time later with that one.

Answer 5

Dude, if your wife had intentions or at least were open to salvaging the marriage, she would have abstained from any one-night stand. Afterall, you guys were and are technically still married, right? If there is a lack of respect or regard for the other, by giving in to a physical need for another, it speaks volumes to me of where you stand in her line of priorities. Time to move on...live and learn!

Answer 6

I personally believe that you have to ask yourself if you can accept and forgive her for her one night stand then you have a chance. That is something she has to own and you have to accept. If you can't, then move on. It won't be easy.

I think any marriage is worth trying - divorce is an "easy" way out and very expensive. You married each other and 6 years of your life may/should be worth a chance don't you think.

What do you have to loose?

Answer 7

It shouldn't mean anything that she had a 1 night stand unless you agreed not to see other people. If you still love her, you should give it another try, but be careful of her motives.

Answer 8

don't even do it if you are ready to move on do go back down the ladder.if she called you don't. that means that she found out that the other man was not what she really wanted. now its time to fall back on you .move on give the other lady a chance. she might be the one.remember make life easy on you not harder

Answer 9

Really don't know why you'd ask this question that knows nothing about your relationship. If you feel right about it then take her back, but if not then move on with you life.

Answer 10

Ah, Geeze....just let it go and both of you grow up emotionally. Life is hard enough without making it more complicated.