My abusive exhusband has a new girlfriend and she doesn't know what he was like.?

Question

I wouldn't wish what he did to me on my very worst enemy. Do I tell her? Do I keep my mouth shut?

Answer 1

I am sure she will find out soon enough. Do you think you should be the one to tell her?

Answer 2

This sounds like a very intricate and difficult situation for you and your ex-husband's new girlfriend. I would suggest laying off for a little bit. Seems like you have a good gut instinct and if you feel that at some point in the future he is doing to her what he did to you, don't be afraid to step in. The whole situation is quite risky, but if it involves the well being of another person whether you hate her or not, the risk will be worth it in the long run. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

Drop her an annomimous letter or note to let her know how abusive he is. If he's been in trouble with the law, then there should be some records on file at the local police station. Send her a copy of these . Don't let it get any further than it has with you. I'm sorry that you were in such an awful relationship, but I'm glad that you got out of it.

Answer 4

There is no point telling her as she would probably not believe you anyway, she would just think it's a case of sour grapes. He will be acting like a real charmer to start with but believe me she will find out for herself soon enough. No point you getting involved with it all, leave it alone, move on and find yourself a nice caring guy who knows how to love a woman and treat her with respect. Obviously your Ex had none of those qualities. Be happy and good luck

Answer 5

Your in a rough spot. I have the same issue with an abusive ex boyfriend, I recently saw his picture in the paper with a girl he is "hoping to walk down the isle" with. I know he is using her for a sugar momma and a green card, and then there is the decision. Well, I had people try to warn me about him and I didn't listen. I respected what they had to say but knew that I needed to learn on my own. I think if you say anything to her she is going to catagorize you as a bitter ex who is jealous. The best thing you can do is move on with your own life, not worry about theirs and wish her only the best.

Answer 6

Well, if you don't tell her and something happens to her will it make you feel better? I was in an abusive relationship years ago, I left him and he wound up marrying someone else. I know his first wife told her how he was, but she didn't believe her, his second wife didn't want to get involved and I was unaware that he had gotten married for the third time until I got word that he was sent to prison for beating her to death. It certainly doesn't make any of us who knew how he was feel very good although one of us did try to warn her.

Answer 7

It's good that you have a good intention. But you are not in the position to tell her, because the nature of your relationship with the ex. She will found out herself soon or later.

Answer 8

Tell her. She might not believe you, but at least you will have done what you could and won't regret keeping your mouth shut if and when he abuses her.

Answer 9

She will think you are lying and trying to break them up if you tell her. Try to get a mutual person to tell her what happened if you want to warn her. She will probably have to learn it on her own.

Answer 10

If you tell, then you look like the "disgruntaled ex-girlfriend". What do you think she will do with the info? Or better yet, what to you want her to do? If she don't leave him, then you did not accoplish your goal.