I am in a long distance relationship with a guy (yes, a guy) and I smoke but he doesn't and has asthma and I told him i've been wanting to quit but can't right now because I live with two other smokers . I fully intend to quit and think I can. I tried before and would have been succesful if not for living situation. We had a little argument yesterday and wont e-mail me after three e-mails to him. Should I keep trying or wait a while? I don't want to be controlled and need to do this in my own time. But, promised it would happen before he sells his house and moves back to my area. What would you do?
2007-01-16 13:07:00 · 5 answers · asked by Fireman T 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's hard to say and it definitely depends on what this arguement was about. You obviously have done your part and wrote him, so now, you just have to sit back and wait for his response. It sucks, but, three times is plenty, as one should have been enough.
In regards to the smoking issue, it seems if you really want to make that commitment to him, you might as well really start trying hard to quit now while you are in the situation you are in. Consider it the worst case scenario to quit. If you can get over it while that is going on, you probably won't be as tempted to start back up since you got over it in that environment. Honestly, quitting smoking, you should do it for you more so than for him. Relationships aren't assured in life, your smoking habit, that's all you man.
So basically, sit back, hang tight and wait for his response and secondly, stop smoking because you want to, not because of someone else, because, what if you quit, and you two don't last, man, that would have sucked.
That's my 0.02. Good luck.
2007-01-16 13:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by K. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how much do you like/love your b/f? You do realise how serious Asthma is? Can you compromise? If you do have to smoke do it outside only and not around your b/f. You did promise also.
2007-01-16 13:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lambchop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't quit until you're ready to but you could compromise and not smoke around him at all. I'm sure that he cares about your health as well as about his. You know how bad smoking is. If you don't quit for your boyfriend; quit for yourself. I just can't believe that people still smoke after knowing how unhealthy it is.
2007-01-16 13:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that...Plus he met you as a smoker, he knew you did and is his asthma is so bad, he never should have started seeing you...He put himself in harms way, not the other way around...I wouldn't date him...You quit when you are ready, it wont work if forced upon you....
2007-01-16 13:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OHH DEAR, THE FIRST THING YOU SHOULD BE DOING IS LOVE YOUR SELF A BIT MORE. YOU SHOULD START THINKING OF QUITING SMOKING. IS NOT HEALTHY.
IF YOU REALLY LOVE HIM, THEN TELL HIM YOU DO. AND LET HIM KNOW THINGS WILL CHANGE FOR THE BETTER OF YOU BOTH.
REMEMBER LIFE IS TO SHORT. LIFE IS BEAUTIFULL. BE HAPPY.
GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-16 13:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋