I have a female friend who loves her husband very much but has been entangled in an old relationship off and on during her whole marriage. She feels bad about her secret attachment to the other guy and wants to move on with her life but hubby found out and is VERY upset. They had other issues that he had forgiven her for and just as she is trying to make headway she gets discovered. She desperately wants her husband to know that she loves him and adores him but she needs romance, excitement and a man who is more dignified, successful and easy going. Her husband is more like a lovable puppy than a dashing hero that makes her weak in the knees and feel like a woman. The husband tries but fails miserably though he loves her and may never satisfy her totally. His faults are starting to be magnified as he is compared to this man. What should she do to save her marriage?? She wants hubby to be her only but how can she feel fulfilled if does not have the emotional tools??
2007-01-16 12:57:56 · 3 answers · asked by Magnus01 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would have to point out that she married this guy based on what? If she loves her husband than why would she want him to change... I hate it when people try to change there mates. One day they are so good and the next this or that needs changed... Better or worse... If she has been off and on during the whole marriage then how can she say she loves him? She wants to change him into the other guy.. UM that's just a little messed up.. I'm all for love sticking together and trying to make a go of it.. But one must drawl the line some place.. not only is your friend coming of as sounding a little selfish. But a little immature also.
She should save her husband the long agonizing pain of infidelity and leave him... Think of some one Else's feelings first... She doesn't seem to even know what she wants..
A good marriage takes work and it doesn't sound as if she has what it takes to make him a good wife.
2007-01-16 13:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by mrs.mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wife needs to grow up and realize she exchanged vows with her husband and he should be her first and only priority.
It sounds like your friend needs some therapy to get her life in order and she should stop seeing the other guy immediately.
Or...... do her husband a favor and ask for a divorce so he can find a woman and not a little girl.
2007-01-16 13:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So....um....didn't you basically cut n paste Venus' question?
2007-01-16 15:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋