my 19 year old boyfriend asked me to marry him and we just meet like last year and I think he's taking it to fast
2007-01-16 12:46:48 · 16 answers · asked by Braiden E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him that he is a nice guy and you really wanna be with him. But marriage is moving way to fast for you so let's just put it off a while and let's get to know one another more better. Explain to him that it is a big step and your not ready at this moment to take that step and when your ready you will let him know. If he loves you and really wanna marry you he will understand that he is moving to fast and slow things down just to not loose you and to have you when you are ready. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-16 12:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you women like to END THE RELATIONSHIP when a guy is going to fast?
Why? I really need to know this. So I'm going to post that question and I would like you to answer it please.
He's going to fast? Really it's been a year! How slow do you women want to go? Do you not understand a man?
From the cavemen days we are genetically ready for a steady relationship long before a woman is. We are ready for one, because we instinctively know that our life expectancy was and is shorter than a female's.
We were the hunters, the warriors. We put our necks on the line to hunt wild game for food. To defend our homes from enemies. We usually died early and our wives lived on. We as a result of this, have our biological clock ticking earlier. That's why our sex drive is higher at a younger age.
So I ask you! Why, knowing this and knowing you love him. Why would you want to END it? Why not just say, you're not ready to get married... and you don't want to end it... you just want to take your time and get to know him completely. You don't want to be a statistic and be divorced 10 years 5 years or 2 years later. You want both of you to know that each of you is the person for the other. So honey, can we just take it slowly? One day at a time.
2007-01-16 12:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, you already know..... If you aren't at least 23, have an education, can make your own financial way in this world, , then no, hon,you aren't ready for marriage. And you sure as heck aren't ready for parenthood..... if you are intimate, be sure you're on the pill --- don't be like all of these questions on here...
"Ohhhh we were so in love, we got married, we have a baaaabbbyyyyy and now he is gone every night, I 'm stuck here with dirty diapers, vomit in the bed, and he's out drinking, we have no money, and I have no way to earn any, and have no way to get a job or a car or",,,,yadayayaydayday
2007-01-16 13:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him don't end it, just tell him he is moving to fast. Be honest with him and let him know that you are not ready at this time. 19 is alittle young for marriage. There are to many people divorced these days ,take your time and make sure he is the one. Good luck !
2007-01-16 12:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to end the relationship is telling him the truth , and the truth would might show him the way he is viewing things, The best thing to do, guest tell him that he is going fast with the relationship, you might not want this relationship to go further
2007-01-16 12:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by rosey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best thing to do is get out! See your question wasn't what you should do but how? So, I guess you don't want a serious relationship with him! So let him know be straight up! You are the only one that knows how to end things with him, you have had the relationship with him and you know how to end things! Good luck!
2007-01-16 12:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by Maria C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually have a perfect pal who's an similar right way, so i am going to allow you to recognize what I actually have instructed her: Take issues sluggish. rigidity your self to decelerate, really of rushing headlong into it like a bull. inspite of in case you do experience like you're in love with the fellow-do not say it instantly away. Wait a short even as till you're positive that they can educate that they are in love with you too. keep in mind that you do not ought to settle now-you've your entire existence previous to you, so it truly is not mandatory that you'll be in a courting continually.
2016-11-24 22:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't end a relationship because of this!
Just tell him you love him, but you're not ready to get married yet and you need more time. He should then back off and adjust to your pace.
2007-01-16 13:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by Tara662 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you care for him deeply but you need a few years to decide if he's the one. Tell him the truth and how you feel or you will never have anything. Honesty is the best policy!
2007-01-16 13:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he's moving to fast. If he loves you so much as to ask you to marry him, he should understand. communication is vital in all relationships. remember that!
2007-01-16 13:48:22 · answer #10 · answered by STARS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋