Should my husband take my name when we get married?

Question

I have always loved my name, and b/c my first and last name start with the same letter, it really sounds nice. I never could imagine changing it. Now I'm about to get married, and my name with my husband's last name sounds simply BLAH. I hate hyphenating, so taking both names is not an option. Should I stick with my maiden name, or for the sake of family unity, should my husband take my last name? He is relatively open to the idea.

Answer 1

I understand. My daughter's name is really cool too.

Understand, though, that many other people will conclude that your husband is "whipped." Unfortunately, your kids may also be ridiculed some of the meaner friends figure it out.

So, you may want to think long and hard before having him do that. If you can deal with the negatives that are likely to result, go ahead.

Otherwise, work a compromise:

The best suggestion here was to use your last name as your middle name. That way, you don't have to hyphenate it, but can still use it whenever you chose.

Answer 2

Oh my god...what? That is totally disrespectful..if you want to keep your maiden name, keep it. You know how stupid that sounds to have your guy take your name. He would be picked on for life. Back to the disrespectful thing, you make it sound like he's not good enough to take his name, but he was good enough to give you a ring. Grow up and make a decision or maybe you shouldn't be getting married.

Answer 3

If you like your name and you're not traditional then why not keep it? That is... if your husband doesn't mind.

In my cuture, the female keeps her maiden name so that people know what family she's from. My mom still has her maiden name. But she doesn't mind being called her husband's name by mistake.

Good luck.

Answer 4

the concern with hyphenating names is that because that is totally time-honored now interior the destiny 2 human beings (both with hyphenated names) receives married and function quad-barrelled names and so on and so on till those with like, 16 names will be getting married to someone with sixty 4 names...... i love the answer which stated they merged names, it truly is a positive idea, both that or choose one persons call.

Answer 5

You should take his last name. If that is too much for you to bare, then you have no right getting married in the first place. Grow up first.

Answer 6

I know of couples who have just kept their own last names. I also knew of a man who took his wife's family name. I don't think it's really a big issue today as it was years ago. If you really love your name, consider keeping it. Your commitment to your husband won't be any less if your last name doesn't change. Do what feels right to you. (Congratulations on your engagement!)

Answer 7

I work with a lady who uses her last name at work and for a lot of things, for some minor things she'll use her married name. you are legally entitled to use both. So really you don't have to chose.

If this helps you any, going and changing your social security number name and drivers license can be a real encouragement for keeping it status quo!! I hated going through that!

Answer 8

i think you guys should have a serious chat about it cuz its a big deal typically i think sticking to your maiden name would be better cuz its not really that big a deal till you have to decide which to give your kids or if he is really (and make sure hes really ok with it) then i guess he could take your name.

Answer 9

Just take his name. It isnt that big of a deal in the end when you think about all the other big decisions you are going to make as a couple. If it is that important though, just talk to him about it.

Answer 10

God love him, I know if I were in a similar situation, I would not change my last name. But I wouldn't be opposed to you keeping your last name.