2007-01-16 12:40:41 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
WELL IT'S NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF.....IT'S A NATURAL PROGRESSION OF THE BODY........I HOPE YOU AREN'T SHAMING YOUR DAUGHTER.
2007-01-16 12:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
The process of going through puberty is nothing to be proud about, but it is also nothing to be ashamed about either.
Just explain to your daughter that, as with small children when changes are taking place (learning to crawl, stand, walk, catch a ball etc) they all happen when a certain stage of development is reached. In the same way when a girl reaches a certain age, and that is different with each girl, changes start to take place.
You can ask her if she has noticed that her body is starting to change, she is getting taller, maybe there is some breast development starting and she will soon get her period - which is perfectly natural and normal and nothing to worry about.
Get a book from the library and read it together. Tell her some of the things that you thought and did when you were going through puberty too. Tell here that you may have thought that "growing up" was not something that you wanted to do, but with that growth comes a new, exciting part of life.
Reassure her that all people go through this transition between childhood and adulthood and that it is exciting!
Celebrate her first period if you can - take her out for lunch!
Good Luck
2007-01-16 20:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you forgotten what it was like to go through puberty. Perhaps, you need to go to the library and take out books that deal with this topics.
Read it first. It give you many hints how to have this conservation with you daughter. Give her an opportunity to ask the questions that you have or uncertain.
I brought a book about girls changing the body. I think it was the tittle. My daughter enjoyed reading it and said it answered a lots of the questions that she was curious.
If you are unconfortable addressing this topic. Bring her to a physical appt and the peditrician most likely will explain to her about puberty. The peditrician could give out information on these topic as well.
2007-01-16 20:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by solitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it means that she is becoming a young lady and her body is about to go through some changes that will eventually turn her into an adult. Talk to her about how her hormones will start to kick in making her develop breasts and start her period. Also, tell her that once her period begins, it means she can have children and you may need to have the parental "birds and bees" talk at this point. You know her maturity level when dealing with these topics, use your own discretion. I don't know that it isn' t something to be proud of. She's made it this far and has every right to be proud that she is becoming an adult. Be glad that she isn't afraid of it all!
2007-01-16 20:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Puberty is an awkward time enough, your don't need to reinforce negative feelings she might already be feeling.
And where do you come from saying puberty is "nothing to be proud of". I think somebody shoould teach you the birds n' the bee's before you go preaching to your daughter.
2007-01-16 23:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Shadow of a girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused about your comment that "it's nothing to be proud about." Puberty is the time when a girl becomes a woman. What is shameful about that?
2007-01-16 20:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by johnsredgloves 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's nothing to be ashamed of either. Her body is going through a natural metamorphosis from little girl to woman.
I would recommend that you go to the library and find resources to explain the process to you and to her. Or else contact Planned Parenhood and ask them to send you an age appropriate Parent Pack.
2007-01-16 23:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a 12y/o daughter and don't know what puberty is, I really feel sorry for her and the issues you are going to dump on her.
2007-01-16 21:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a bad mother if you want your child to be ashamed. Did you go through puberty? if you did then you know what to expect and you need to explain it all to her. Looks like you need to grow uo still
2007-01-17 04:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing shameful about puberty. Everybody went through it, even you. But I guess you weren't paying attention because you don't know anything about it.
2007-01-17 01:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you even talking about? You had her, so you should know what puberty is. And it is an interesting time for her because it means she is growing up. Don't give her your hangups, and support her during this time. It's hard enough with out someone making you feel guilty and ugly.
2007-01-16 20:45:24 · answer #11 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋