im 15 years old. pregnant. any help or tips on being a teenaged mom would be greatly appreciated. im very scared at this point.
2007-01-16 12:38:51 · 13 answers · asked by bananaterricottapie! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I found out I was pregnant with my first daughter on my 16th birthday, so I know where your coming from. My advise to you is to stay strong. Some of your friends will slowly fade out of your life, you will get dirty looks from people who think they are better than you, and you will miss out on a lot of things kids your age do. It's not an easy road to be on. Now that you know that I want you to know that a baby is a beautiful gift, they NEED you, it's not all bottles and diapers, it's the first time they blow you a kiss, the first steps they take (and the fall). It's the first time they say I love you mommy. First day of school, your first mothers day. You still have a wonderful life to look forward too, but now it will be a little different. It's okay to be scared, everyone is, not just young mothers. Losing your friends isn't going to be fun for you, but you will get new ones, maybe other moms, maybe just kids that don't mind (they make the best sitters) I also agree with one of the other answers you got, go online and look for a support group. Check message boards and see if there's another girl your age going through this, you can help each other.
2007-01-16 13:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by lil_momma_of_two 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't in the first million or two in your situation.
It's happened just about forever.
No matter how much it scares you, you can get through it just fine, like millions before you.
There are tons of scary stories that almsot everyone will want to tell you, even if you say not to. Here's one:
A friend of mine got pregnant at 15, and was going to get married and then had a miscarriage just before her wedding was scheduled. I was relieved because he wasn't a very good guy anyway. She dumped him, got back with him, and a couple more miscarriages, and finally a baby and then married him.
Becoming a father scares a lot of guys. They don't take responsibility too well sometimes. Sometimes they blame you for what they talked you into. Lots of times they aren't mature enough to do right for a wife and child.
If the father of your baby doesn't run off, it's a good thing usually, unless he's abusive, then keeping away is the best - and only - thing to do.
The father is responsible for taking care of raising your baby, usually by marrying you or paying child support until your child is an adult.
You're probably too young for marraige in your state, and if you get married, it may not last more than a few years.
It may sound boring, but look in the phone book for a place called Crisis Pregnancy Center.
Some of them try to lean you one way or the other, but they will help you out no matter what you want to do.
I can tell you that if you have an abortion you probably will regret it for the rest of your life.
If you keep you baby you will probably have a hard time for the next 20 years, and if you go for an adoption, it will hurt too, but if you can keep in touch with you baby's new family it makes it a little bit better.
2007-01-16 21:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by Big Bruce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teen Pregnancy :
- Mothers Too Soon
- A Global Tragedy
- Facing the Challenges of Teen Motherhood
- Help and Protection for Young Ones
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/10/8/article_01.htm
Making Your Pregnancy Safer ...
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20030108/article_01.htm
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2007-01-17 01:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your local Nurse Family Partnership....they specialize in teen pregnancy, they help you with stages of pregnancy, labor, and after the baby is born, feeding, bathing, etc. they come to your house and it is free. I do really hope though that you learned your lesson with being 15 and pregnant. Also call your local WIC office and get an appointment. They help with formula for when the baby is here and foods for while you are pregnant. And since you are only 15 and obviously can't get a job to get medical insurance for the baby....go to www.accessservices.org and find a location near you to apply for the medical card(free insurance)
Other than that....I was pregnant with my first at 18 and it is hard as he## to be honest! The best tip I can give you is to form a group of friends and family to support you through it emotionally as well as physically.
2007-01-16 20:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by jule9104 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look around in your area to see there is a shelter for teenager mothers. Ask to come in and observe the teen mothers have their hand on the babies. These teen moms will give you the truth what it is like being a teen mom. Perhaps, you can make friend and be connecting with these moms.
Good luck.
2007-01-16 20:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by solitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I read your question and I feel for you. Have you thought about your options. Does your parents know? What are their feelings? My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for over 2 years. I had a tubal pregnancy and lost one of my tubes. Have you thought about adoption. They have open adoption where you can keep in contact with the baby and the family or closed adoption where you have as much to do in the life of the baby as you chose. I would love to be contacted if you are open to discussing adoption. A baby is all that me and my husband has wanted for so long. I think that adoption will be our only hope in having a family. But if you want to talk more to me my email is daniellenicolehobbs@yahoo.com I hope you make the right choice for yourself
2007-01-16 20:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by daniellenicolehobbs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, its not the end of the world.
Just eat good , nutritional foods and drink plenty of milk.
Dont be scared either, your baby will grow inside u and u will feel wonderful.
Take deep breathes and relax, u on a 9 month journey to have a beautiful baby.
Make sure u try to get child support from the father of child after the child is born. Cheer up THink positive.
http://www.pregnancy.com
2007-01-16 20:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your situation. I don't know how to help you. I will just pray for you. If your parents are not evil people, let them know. Sure they will get angry and will scream and yell. But eventually they will calm down and give you the support that you need- so that you wouldn't feel so alone. It would be better to write a letter to your parents and letting them know how scared and alone that you feel in this situation- let them know how you feel. Remember that as bad as things can seem to be right now, they will pass. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
2007-01-16 20:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't abbort. That's wrong. If u were able to spread ur legs for a guy, than you should be able to spread ur legs to give brith. Talk to your mom, she'll be able to help you. It may be hard for u to continue going to school, they say the hardest thing for a teenage pregnant girl to do is to walk the halls in school with everyone looking at you. But just push ur self to go to school. That's one of the most important things. Just Talk to someone that you can trust. They'll be able to help you.
2007-01-16 20:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by babygirl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am 16 but i am not a mom. I advise you to just always put your baby first, and love him/her unconditionally. I wish you the best of luck and i give you props for being concerned about your baby's well being!
2007-01-16 20:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by luvmyboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋